You won’t always feel instant chemistry with your soulmate.
It can take time to get to know a person for that connection to develop, and for you to realize that you were meant to be together.
However, sometimes the connection is immediate and sparks fly the moment you meet someone. They make you feel different– better, somehow– than you ever have before in a way that might be difficult to explain.
But how do you know if that’s the case? Just meeting someone you like creates enough feels that it can be hard to differentiate a natural emotional response and a real, deep romantic connection.
Fortunately, there are ways to tell that someone might be your soulmate within just minutes of meeting them, signs you can look out for (or look back on, if you’ve had a chance encounter).
A soulmate is someone who you could spend a great deal of time with just sitting on a sofa and feel happy. You don’t need fanfare. You don’t need to go out to expensive restaurants.
– Karen Salmansohn
1. There’s a spark
When you’ve only just met someone, someone you think is amazing, it’s hard to navigate the tangle of emotions exploding in your conscious mind. What is true, what isn’t, and how much of this shows sign of something deeper are all things you want to find out.
Because of this, one of the best ways to tell someone you just met might be your soulmate is to just go with your gut.
How does the other person make you feel? Look for different feelings, things you’ve never felt before. Good vibes, deep and meaningful vibes, as opposed to some sort of logical list of desirable qualities or just the swell of excitement that happens when you meet someone you like.
Look for something deeper, the sign of a meaningful connection, even if you can’t quite explain it.
As we talked about earlier, true love doesn’t have to be immediate. A real, soulmate-level connection requires you know who they are on the inside and that can take time (in the real world, at least– sorry, Hollywood).
Instead of looking for some supernatural brain spark or inexplicable explosion from the chest area, look for things like the desire to know more about them the moment you meet them.
A curiosity to know more about the person is a sign you’re truly interested, even fascinated, with the person. Two people who have such a deep connection are always immensely interested in learning about one another, so that’s a sign you might have met your soulmate.
3. You feel like you can immediately trust and place your faith in them
This one kind of requires that you’ve been around in the dating game for a bit, or simply a good judge of character, because you need to be able to differentiate between the truth and a lie.
Trust is one of the single most important aspects of any strong, lasting relationship so look for immediate signs, or even just the feeling, that you could trust the person fully without hesitation.
If you’ve had some bad experiences in the past, this might be difficult for you. That’s okay, either look for other signs or, if you’re willing, face the issue head-on and allow yourself to move naturally through the process with faith. Sometimes, you just know — and you need to allow yourself to pursue these feelings.
4. You’re comfortable being yourself around them
One of the most beautiful things that can happen in a relationship is growing comfortable with being yourself around the other person.
Like in any friendship, we tend to start out a bit– or very– reserved and open up over time. However, if you immediately feel like you can be yourself around one another, that’s a powerful sign the person might be your soulmate.
It’s incredibly rare to find someone whom you feel immediately comfortable with, but it is possible. The willingness to be yourself with another person removes many obstacles that create challenges in a relationship, so it’s a sign you two were simply meant to be.