Super Charismatic People Do These 5 Things Everywhere They Go
To many, charisma is a nebulous term that’s hard to nail down.
Is it confidence? Smooth talk? An infectious smile? It turns out, it’s kind of all of those things and more.
Charisma is often defined as a kind of attractiveness that can influence those around you. It offers a desirable sway over people, which is beneficial in situations ranging from business negotiations to positions of leadership.
However, figuring out how to become more charismatic can seem like an impossible task if you feel you weren't born with natural charm.
But what makes someone charismatic can, in fact, be broken down into several basic qualities.
Being a leader gives you charisma. If you look and study the leaders who have succeeded, that's where charisma comes from, from the leading.– Seth Godin
Here are some of the most important skills you need to master to become the most charismatic person in any room:
1. Communicate masterfully
Effective communication is easily one of the single most important qualities you need to master the art of charisma. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that many of the points on this list are different aspects of effective human communication.
Mastery of verbal communication is a whole subject in itself, but it includes:
- Learning how to become a good listener
- How to speak more intentionally
- Reading the body language of those you’re communicating with
- Improving public speaking skills
Charisma is, essentially, a byproduct of a particular type of communication. By mastering the above points, you can communicate in a way the exudes charisma.
2. Use the full power of body language
Now we move into the more intangible qualities of a charismatic person.
Body language is an extension of your ability to communicate verbally. A powerful, uplifting story told by someone standing perfectly still isn’t nearly as powerful as someone raising their hands to describe an “Aha!” moment or jumping with excitement to signify a joyful surprise.
In addition, how you carry yourself communicates either confidence or a lack of it, with a straight posture illustrating the former and curling or hunching of the body the latter. A smile helps too!
3. Maintain a high energy level
Charismatic people typically have very high energy.
I know what you’re thinking: I’m not naturally energetic. The thing is, you don’t have to be. The important point to remember is that charisma only comes into play when you’re interacting with others, so you just need high energy during specific interactions.
I say that because it’s pretty easy to adopt an exercise that pumps you up before interactions, whether that’s a few jumping jacks before a speech or something more lasting such as a morning routine that includes affirmations and exercise.
4. Great storytelling
The power of storytelling goes beyond a great book, movie, T.V. show, or advertising campaign. By becoming a great storyteller, you can influence others to see your side of things in a more effective way. It's about keeping people engaged.
Another great benefit of storytelling is it allows others to connect with you on a personal level (assuming you're sharing personal stories), as this increases your likeability and charm.
5. Create an emotional connection
Most of the points I mentioned here are particular actions you can take to become more charismatic. However, I included this point last because it’s different. Less of a particular action and more of a strategy to influence your actions, it’s the glue that holds everything together.
Everything you do needs to communicate certain things emotionally. When it comes to charisma, exuding confidence, certainty, and knowledge also boils down to feeling passionate about a topic.
Body language is great for communicating confidence and certainty, while verbal communication is better for communicating knowledge and wisdom– so keep that in mind when considering what kind of emotional connection you want to establish, and don't forget to channel your passion through these forms of communication.
Military Dad Defends His 4 Little Daughters When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Military Dad of 4 Daughters Defends His Girls When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Austin von Letkemann is the military officer strangers feel "sorry" for — and the reason is infuriating.
Whenever the devoted father leaves the house with his four children, strangers can't help but notice the officer in uniform is holding hands with 4 adorable little girls. They will tell the traditionally "masculine" and "all American" dad they feel sorry for him, because he has no sons. This dad makes one thing very clear: They are his daughters, they aren't a burden.
In a passionate video, von Letkemann took to Instagram to share with his followers that the only thing that's "difficult" about being a girl dad — is clapping back to these sexist remarks over and over again.
They Mock His Daughters To Their Face
When strangers approach Austin von Letkemann and his four daughters, they don't always realize that their comments are being overheard. They seem oblivious to the fact that his girls understand every word. Von Letkemann describes how people will approach him and, without thinking, make remarks like "I'm sorry" or even joke about his lack of sons. What they don't realize is that these comments, intended to be light-hearted or humorous, can be deeply hurtful to his daughters. These strangers are not just disrespecting von Letkemann's choices as a father; they're also sending a message to his daughters that their presence is something to be pitied. It’s a message that von Letkemann won't stand for, and he's speaking out to defend his girls from these insensitive remarksSaying "Get Your Shotgun" Isn't Funny — It's Sexist
Another common comment that Austin von Letkemann encounters is the old "better get your shotgun ready" trope, often delivered with a smirk or a wink. This line is typically intended to suggest that a father with daughters should be on high alert to protect them from potential "suitors," implying that they are objects to be guarded rather than individuals with agency.
Von Letkemann finds this line of thinking outdated and sexist. In his viral Instagram video, he points out that these jokes are not just stale — they're damaging.
By suggesting that his daughters require armed protection, the joke reinforces the idea that women are inherently vulnerable and need to be shielded from men. Von Letkemann argues that instead of promoting this narrative, society should focus on teaching respect and consent, challenging these sexist tropes at their source.
Watch Austin von Letkemann's Video:
"If I Had A Fifth Child, I'd HOPE It Was A Girl" — One Dad's Message For Other Parents
Despite the constant remarks about his lack of sons, Austin von Letkemann is clear: He wouldn't trade his daughters for anything.
In fact, he told his Instagram followers that if he were to have a fifth child, he would hope for another girl. This declaration isn't just about doubling down on his pride in his family — it's a pointed response to those who see fathering daughters as a misfortune.
Von Letkemann's stance is a powerful one, rejecting the notion that a family is incomplete without sons. He encourages others to question the assumptions behind these comments and to appreciate the joy and fulfillment that his daughters bring. By sharing his story, von Letkemann hopes to create a more inclusive perspective on fatherhood, one that values daughters just as much as sons.