Mom Justifies Her "No Contact" Relationship With Her Son — Why SHE Is Being Called a Gaslighter
In the age of social media, where opinions fly faster than ever, one video sparked a wildfire of controversy, shedding light on a topic often brushed under the rug: parent-child relationships.
Brianna Knight is the millennial "doula in training" who took to her platform to express her bewilderment at parents who seem unfazed by their adult children's decision to cut ties — a phenomenon known as "no contact."
Little did she know, her words would ignite a heated response from a mother named Julie, whose reaction left many questioning the dynamics of familial bonds.
Angry Mother Responds To Viral Video Encouraging Better Parenting
This 3-part video saga begins with a simple video posted by a millennial woman, whose candid commentary on parent-child relationships struck a nerve in the online community. In her impassioned monologue, she questions the perplexing phenomenon of parents seemingly unfazed by their adult children's decision to cut ties — a practice commonly referred to as "no contact."
"I just don't get it," she muses to her followers. "How can a parent act like it's no big deal when their own child decides to go no contact? It's like they're completely unbothered by it."
But she didn't know her words would provoke a response that would reverberate across social media platforms. Enter Julie, a middle-aged mother with fiery red hair and a demeanor to match. In her luxurious kitchen, adorned with the trappings of affluence, she confronts the millennial woman's critique with a venomous retort.
She Said Putting Her Son First Made Her Want To "Kill Herself"
"Oh sweetie, I probably shouldn't address this because I'm too emotional about it," Julie begins, her tone dripping with disdain. "But I will say this: Since my son has cut me off and gone no contact, I can do two things. I can remove myself from this planet or I can just totally shut my emotions and all my feelings down."
- Julie (@goosegrese56 /TikTok)
The stark contrast between the millennial's earnest inquiry and Julie's defensive outburst sets the stage for a showdown of generational perspectives on parent-child relationships. As the video exchange unfolds, viewers are left grappling with uncomfortable truths about emotional responsibility and the enduring impact of familial dynamics.
Amidst the uproar caused by Julie's callous remarks, a voice of reason emerged. Brianna (@briknightt), a postpartum advocate and "doula in training", took to TikTok to dismantle Julie's harmful narrative.
With grace and clarity, she addressed the complexities of parent-child estrangement, drawing from her own experience with a narcissistic and abusive father. Brianna's video served as the perfect validation for those navigating similar struggles, reminding them that they are not alone in their journey to reclaim their emotional well-being.
Watch Brianna Knight's Video:
@briknighttt @Julie It’s giving “I guess I’m just the worst mother ever” instead of actually listening to your child 😵💫 #respectfulparenting #gentleparenting #cyclebreaker #cyclebreaking #millennialmom #equalparenting #childhoodtrauma #childhoodabuse #domesticabuseawareness #domesticviolenceawareness #dvsurvivor #traumatok #healingjourney #momswhoheal #millennialmom #greenscreenvideo ♬ original sound - briknighttt
Brianna's Message Reminds Those Struggling They Aren't "Crazy"
In her video response, Brianna delves into the complexities of parent-child relationships with wisdom and compassion. She highlights the emotional toll of estrangement and offers invaluable insights for those grappling with similar struggles.
"It takes a lot for a child to want to go no contact with the person that raised them. It takes a lot of trying. It takes a lot of years. It takes a lot of pain."
- Brianna Knight
Her words resonate deeply with viewers, providing solace and validation for those navigating the tumultuous terrain of familial estrangement. Brianna's message serves as a beacon of hope, reminding individuals that they are worthy of love and understanding, even in the face of familial discord.
A Lesson For Parents Unwilling To Embrace Healing and Growth
Screenshots from a woman's TikTok video.@briknightt / TikTok
As the dust settles on this digital battleground, it's imperative to reflect on the lessons learned. Julie's outburst may have sparked outrage, but it also sparked a much-needed conversation about the complexities of parent-child dynamics in the modern age.
In a world where emotional vulnerability is often perceived as weakness, Brianna's courage to speak her truth shines brightly. Her resilience and empathy serve as a testament to the power of authenticity and compassion in fostering meaningful connections.
As we navigate the intricate web of familial relationships, let us heed Brianna's wisdom and embrace the journey of healing and growth. For it is through introspection and empathy that we pave the path towards reconciliation and understanding — bridging the divide between generations and forging bonds rooted in love and acceptance.
Since going viral for all the wrong reasons, Julie has deleted her TikTok account (@goosegrease56).
Is Religion to Blame for the Division Among Us?
I once heard that in the Mormon faith, people who are not Mormon are not permitted in the temple or church. Then I became friends with several people who were Mormons, attended a memorial service, at a Mormon Church, and an aunt of mine also joined the church. I had a similar experience the Church of Scientology.
I attended a memorial service for the father of a dear friend and not only found it to be warm, caring, and exceptionally loving, but I learned that more than one of my friends were ordained ministers. I’ve always thought of myself as open minded and I considered myself to be without actual judgment or opinion about either religion. I was a little surprised at the things I learned, so I wondered what other misconceptions I had about certain religions. Religion has always been the scapegoat for the lunacy of man. It was the case in Salem Massachusetts, where people were burned alive if they were suspected of being a witch.
It was the case when racists burned (or sometimes still do) crosses to display their disdain of blacks or other non-whites, and it is the excuse given by those who make it their business to show disrespect at funerals for fallen soldiers who have served our country and had been identified as gay. In this and other similar instances, the blame was Christianity. In an age where media is more prevalent than ever, where in instances, disturbed nut cases make it hard to distinguish truth from their purpose, and especially in the wake of the cowardice and horrible shooting in Orlando, Islam is perhaps the most common blame.
But Islam is no more to blame for the division among us than Christianity, or any other religion. We have to take responsibility for what we consume. We can’t always control what the media attempts to feed us but we have a say in what we choose to consume. Much of it starts with the perfection in which our spirits walk as we enter the world. We feel anything is possible and unless given or taught a reason to do otherwise, we treat people as they treat us.
The curiosity and innocence of a child can teach us much. If we would simply retain an honest desire to learn about and from each other, and to give in to the power of questions rather than statements. I recently learned that the great poet Rumi, was not just Muslim, but specifically from, a sect known as the Sufi. He was a practitioner of the art or prayer known as the whirling dervish.
The Sufis welcomed people of all faiths, including Christianity, to learn this form of prayer and art. I had heard of Rumi, but I had never heard this information before so my most common question was, ” what else don’t I know”? What other misconceptions may we have of others and more importantly about ourselves? When we attain a childlike, sincere thirst to learn about each other, good things happen. The world becomes smaller and a better place. In the case of Rumi and the dervish, I never knew any of this, though I heard the term whirling dervish, I would have never associated it with religion. Just under 24 hours after learning of this, part of me felt like I knew all along. But we have to be open. To be open, we need to just care, much like our children teach us.