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Why We Need To Talk About Kim Petras—the First Trans Woman to Win a Grammy
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Why We Need To Talk About Kim Petras—the First Trans Woman to Win a Grammy

Of the dozens of Grammys bestowed upon stars this year, the winner who stands out boldly from the rest is Kim Petras, as she became the first openly transgender woman to win the prestigious award. Petras, along with non-binary singer Sam Smith, won Best Pop Duo/Group Performance for their sexy, chart-topping song, "Unholy." RELATED: Elliot Page’s 6 Most Important Lessons about Authenticity for Trans and Cisgender PeopleFrom her youth spent in a small town in Germany to come out as trans, to her start in the music industry to her historical Grammys win, here is Kim Petras's story, and how she brings inspiration to her fans—both cis and trans alike.Kim Petras's Music Career, from Performing at Gay Clubs in Germany to Commanding the Stage at the Grammys@kimpetras/InstagramKim Petras was born and raised in Cologne, a city in Germany. She was assigned male at birth, but knew from a young age that she was a girl. In her early teenage years, she appeared on a German documentary which detailed her transition. The documentary was wildly insensitive—and at times, outright offensive—about her identity. Petras says, "became a joke as a 12-year-old on TV." She was harassed by strangers and bullied by her peers. She became suicidal and spent her days hidden in her room, turning to pop music for solace. Inspired by the likes of Madonna, the Spice Girls, Cher and Britney Spears, Petras dedicated her days to songwriting and singing. At 14, Petras began performing in gay clubs, the only place she said she could be herself. At 19, she moved to Los Angeles to break into the music industry. She released her debut single, "I Don't Want It at All," in 2017. RELATED: Marvel Finally Revealed a Superhero as Queer in Thor: Love and Thunder – And That’s CrucialEarly in Petras's career, Sam Smith reached out via Instagram DM, expressing they wanted to collab with her. Years later in 2022, the duo released "Unholy." The song became so popular it reached number one on the Billboard Hot 100, making Petras and Smith the first trans woman and non-binary person, respectively, to top the charts.On Sunday, Petras and Smith accepted their Grammy award. Smith graciously gave Petras the stage for the acceptance speech. In the speech, Petras thanked "the incredible transgender legends performing who kicked these doors open for me so I could be here tonight," and Sophie, a trans woman and musician whom Petras had collaborated with who passed away two years ago. She honored Madonna, for "fighting for LGBTQ rights." She praised her "Unholy" co-singer, Smith, for their unwavering support. And she honored her mother, who she said, "believed me that I was a girl and I wouldn't be here without her and her support." How Kim Petras Inspires Both Her Trans and Cis Fans Alike@kimpetras/InstagramThe significance of Petras winning this prestigious award cannot be overstated. Petras's success is an inspiration to trans and queer people everywhere, proving that transgender people can shine, even in a hostile world.RELATED: What is ‘Queerbaiting’ and Is Billie Eilish Guilty of It?Petras is conscious of her trans identity, and while she wants to be a light to the trans community, she also wants to showcase who she is outside of gender. In an interview with Billboard, she says, "Do I talk about being transgender in interviews and stuff like that, or then does everything become about me being transgender? Does the trans community not feel like I’m talking about it enough? Things like that are difficult, but we’re figuring it out. I just always want to make people feel good about themselves with my music.” With her rise in popularity, it's clear that Petras is doing just that—making everyone, both cis and trans, feel good through her musical talent and unapologetic personality. And she's only getting started.KEEP READING: At 64, Madonna Upsets Everyone With a World Tour—Proving She Doesn’t Care What You Think

How Dance Moms Star JoJo Siwa Overcame Hate to Become a Powerful LGBTQ+ Icon
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How Dance Moms Star JoJo Siwa Overcame Hate to Become a Powerful LGBTQ+ Icon

JoJo Siwa’s career is already established at the young age of 19 years old. Siwa had her first encounter with fame through the hit show Dance Moms back in 2015, guiding her to start her YouTube channel which now boasts 12.2 million subscribers. Despite this success, to have an incredibly bright spotlight on you at an impressionable age can sometimes do more harm than good.RELATED: Top 24 Ellen DeGeneres Quotes to Inspire Pride in Who You AreIn an interview with ET during her time on Dancing with the Stars, Siwa explained a pivotal moment in rehearsal with partner Jenna Johnson that spearheaded her journey toward self-acceptance. Johnson, in the midst of a complicated dance number, asked Siwa to remove her t-shirt that seemed to be getting in the way. Siwa expressed that she couldn’t because she “didn’t like how [she] looked under it.” This emotional moment was followed up by Johnson asking Siwa to look in the mirror and perform a self-love exercise. Siwa says that her Dancing with the Stars partner changed the way she thinks and feels about herself.Johnson, who seems to have metaphorically adopted Siwa as a little sister, chimed into the conversation. “At the end of the day, she is a teen and she is a girl,” she says, “in dance class, you have to stare at yourself in a mirror for hours on end and that’s not always easy."Siwa's trademark look of bows, ponytails, and rainbows was established when she was a child. Now, as an adult, it’s only normal that she’s evolved and is searching for a new brand with newfound confidence. How have her recent changes in style and personal lifestyle choices – including her coming out announcement – reflect her growth? How Coming Out Changed JoJo SiwaFrom singing in sold-out venues and joining the Nickelodeon team, to appearances on talk shows and making new celebrity friends, Siwa has turned her fame into a business, going full-on girl-boss. She was even named one of TIME’s 100 Most Influential People of 2020. In an essay about the teen star, Kim Kardashian called her “a great role model for children." Kardashian spoke on Siwa’s authenticity, a lifestyle that she has continued tenfold over the last year. “Jojo is never ashamed to be herself, which can be really hard to do in this industry, especially when you’re so young.” She wrote, “At some point, she’ll evolve and grow up a little bit, and that’s O.K. The people who love and support her will always be there”.RELATED: Elliot Page’s 6 Most Important Lessons about Authenticity for Trans and Cisgender PeopleAnd essentially, that’s what happened. In January 2021 Siwa chose to share her sexual orientation with her fans via Twitter. The photo was of a shirt her cousin gave her that said, “Best. Gay. Cousin. Ever.” While live on Instagram after the initial announcement, Siwa said that she’s just the happiest she’s ever been. She then went on to drop another bomb on her fans and introduced her girlfriend, Kylie Prew, 18, to the world.Siwa, who now identifies as pansexual, has fully embraced being queer online. She’s been vocal about her experience coming out as well as her relationship with Prew. While the two did break up for some time in 2021, they reconciled this May.This wasn’t the only shock this spring from Siwa. In fact, in April, the Dance Moms star ditched her signature blonde ponytail for an edgy pixie cut. She posted her new look on Instagram with the caption “HAPPPPPY." While she did hint at some changes last year in an Instagram Q&A, revealing that she was ready to let go of her beloved bows, this was not the change that her fanbase was expecting.RELATED: Miley Cyrus and Demi Lovato Get Real About Body Image Issues During QuarantineThe dramatic change sparked opinions, but her comment sections were mostly filled with positivity and love. As Kim Kardashian said, the people who love her have continued to support her through her journey to self-discovery. Being gay does not mean that you are no longer “kid-friendly,” and Siwa’s wholesome content is the perfect example of that. In a beautiful tribute to overcoming her struggle with self-image, Siwa sheds the dead weight of not just her ponytail, but whatever hang-ups she had about her own appearance.How JoJo Siwa Uses Her Platform to Support LGBTQ+ CommunitiesBy coming out, Siwa opened up a gateway to a community of acceptance. A community where her young fans can express themselves, their identities, and their sexual orientation without fear of judgement. She is a meaningful LGBTQ+ role model that has inspired a whole new generation of youth to live true to themselves. Much like Ellen DeGeneres, who paved the way for gay women at a time when they were not spoken for in Hollywood, Siwa has created a safe space for individuals of all ages to simply be who they are.Representation in Hollywood is important. Young queer individuals who don’t see many LGBTQ+ stars may feel discouraged to enter that space, thinking that they won’t be accepted. Siwa is using her large following and prominent voice to show young people that your sexual orientation won’t stop you from achieving your dreams.JoJo Siwa’s Coming Out Announcement Led to Mixed Reactions from PeopleMany of Siwa’s already existing fans continued to support her, and through her courage in coming out, she gained new fans of all ages. But, that doesn’t mean there wasn’t any backlash to her announcement. Siwa chose to Google herself after the announcement and was upset by some comments from parents expressing that they wouldn’t let their daughters support her anymore.RELATED: Texas Bakers Lost Customers After Making Pride Cookies, Community Rallies In SupportOne fan went as far as to tweet, “Hey JoJo, I’m coming to you’re show tonight, please don’t say you’re gay.” Siwa’s iconic response took the tweet quite literally. Rather than saying anything at all, Siwa chose to raise a rainbow Pride flag with her face plastered on it and waved it in front of a roaring crowd.How JoJo Siwa is Inspiring a New Generation of LGBTQ+ AlliesSiwa takes on her fame with more maturity than most celebrities twice her age. Living her life on her own terms in a hugely public manner is brave in itself. By being so open about her sexuality, Siwa opened herself up to criticism willingly, which shows us that being an LGBTQ+ leader for her young fanbase is high on her list of priorities.She uses her platform to strengthen the community she’s built around her as well as amplifies her own queer voice to make sure that others like her are heard and seen in the media. She is responsible for the rise of a new generation of LGBTQ+ allies. “I don’t want people to watch my videos or buy my merchandise if they aren’t going to support not only me,” she says, “but the LGBTQ Community.”KEEP READING: 25 Billie Eilish Quotes to Embrace Your Most Authentic Self

Gay Son Comes Out To Mormon Dad, Gets Shocked For All The Right Reasons
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Gay Son Comes Out To Mormon Dad, Gets Shocked For All The Right Reasons

Before his first missionary trip, Mormon Austin Swink had something important to tell his father — and his response invokes all the feels.Coming out is never easyComing out to a parent is one of the hardest things someone can do, but it was even harder for Austin Swink because of his faith.Still, Swink felt he had to do it ahead of his first missionary trip for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and to give the world an inside scoop, he kept his phone video on during the conversation with his father.In the video posted by USA Today, Swink struggles at first, but soon says what he needed to say right off the bat: "I'm gay." “I got this feeling that I just needed to get it off my chest before I left, because it was weighing on me for so long, not saying anything,” Swink later told the publication.His dad gave a caring responseWithout hesitation, Swink's dad, Vaughn Swink, replied: "Are you okay, though?"Austin says "mhm," but Vaughn wanted to be clear: "No, but I'm saying worthy wise.""Yeah, I know I just—""Austin I don't care. I don't care," Vaughn repeated. "You're okay."The dad then asked his son, "Are you a child of God?"Austin agreed. "Okay. That's fine," the dad concluded.Making a difficult moment easierWe've all seen enough movies, heard enough stories or experienced it ourselves to know how harshly parents can react to someone coming out — and how devastating that can be for a child. So regardless of whether you have the same faith or not, it's uplifting to hear this dad's kind words in one of the most important moments of their lives.More uplifting stories:Instagram Influencer’s Ridiculous Attempt At Fat-Shaming Woman Quickly BackfiresWoman Unceremoniously Dumps Toxic Boyfriend After Constant Body ShamingWoman Too Heavy For Her Scale Has Major Wake-Up Call And Loses Over 200 Lbs In 1 YearMen Get Caught Harassing McDonald’s Worker, Sparking Outrage About A Harsh Reality

Texas Bakers Lost Customers After Making Pride Cookies, Community Rallies In Support
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Texas Bakers Lost Customers After Making Pride Cookies, Community Rallies In Support

A sign of support and love for the LGBTQ+ community was shot down at a small bakery in Texas. Then, the community responded, proving that love always wins.Heart-shaped cookies for PrideJune is Pride month, so a bakery in Lufkin, Texas thought of spreading love the way they know how — with tasty cookies, of course! "More LOVE. Less hate," a Facebook post from the bakery read. "Happy Pride to all our LGBTQ friends! All lovers of cookies and happiness are welcome here"</p><h3>The bakery was dealt a crushing blow </h3><p>But then, the bakery received an unexpected amount of blowback for showcasing the cookies. They lost followers on social media and a customer canceled an order of five dozen summer-themed cookies that the bakery had already finished decorating.</p><p>"My heart is heavy," the baker wrote. "Honestly I never thought a post that literally said more love less hate would result in this kind of backlash to a very small business that is struggling to stay afloat and spread a little cheer through baked goods."</p><p><iframe allow="autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; picture-in-picture; web-share" allowfullscreen="true" frameborder="0" height="275" scrolling="no" src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fpermalink.php%3Fstory_fbid%3D5555854097821155%26id%3D157581020981850&show_text=true&width=500" style="border:none;overflow:hidden" width="500"/></p><h3>Love shines through</h3><p>But the community wouldn't let their beloved bakery down. Customers started to show up in droves and bought out every single item in the store. </p><p><iframe allow="autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; picture-in-picture; web-share" allowfullscreen="true" frameborder="0" height="471" scrolling="no" src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fpermalink.php%3Fstory_fbid%3D5560170257389539%26id%3D157581020981850&show_text=true&width=500" style="border:none;overflow:hidden" width="500"/></p><p><iframe allow="autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; picture-in-picture; web-share" allowfullscreen="true" frameborder="0" height="485" scrolling="no" src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fpermalink.php%3Fstory_fbid%3D5560595817346983%26id%3D157581020981850&show_text=true&width=500" style="border:none;overflow:hidden" width="500"/></p><p>There was so much support that some customers simply paid money so the owners could either take it or donate it to the charity of their choice (they decided to donate to an animal rescue).</p><p><iframe allow="autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; picture-in-picture; web-share" allowfullscreen="true" frameborder="0" height="692" scrolling="no" src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fpermalink.php%3Fstory_fbid%3D5556242247782340%26id%3D157581020981850&show_text=true&width=500" style="border:none;overflow:hidden" width="500"/></p><p>Some of those who donated weren't even residents of Lufkin — one came all the way from Miami, Florida.</p><p>The owners said that the lesson for all is that despite the actions of a select, ignorant few, love — and cookies — will always win.</p><p>"We are so grateful for the many messages of love and acceptance we have received; they far out way the negative, hurtful and hateful," the baker wrote on Facebook a few days later. "We want this to be a <a href="/2021/03/24/blessed-quotes/">positive place</a>. We will not accept hate or be bullied with lies. I know what is in my heart and I know what is in my sweet sister’s heart. We just want to make our cookies. We just want people to be happy in our shop surrounded by our cookies that are made with LOVE. We want people who receive our cookies to be happy. Thank you."</p><h4>Happy Pride!</h4><p>As normal as it is for many of us, there are still those that don't see that love between two men or two women or otherwise is the same love as that of a man and a woman, which is a shame. But that's not what this story is really about. It's about the power of love, the power of community, and the power of <a href="/2020/04/20/kindness-quotes/">human kindness </a>in uplifting others. </p><p>Happy Pride, everyone!</p><p><strong>More uplifting stories:</strong></p><ul><li><a href="/2021/02/17/single-dad-shamed-hugging-gay-son/"><strong>Single Dad Gets Shamed For Hugging Gay Son, Reddit Has The Best Response</strong></a></li><li><strong><a href="/50-years-after-their-love-was-torn-apart-by-racism-theyre-finally-married/">50 Years After Their Love Was Torn Apart by Racism, They’re Finally Married</a></strong></li><li><a href="/2021/01/27/gay-couple-kicked-out-restaurant-manager-fires-employee-apology/"><strong>Gay Couple Gets Kicked Out Of Restaurant, Manager Has The Best Response</strong></a></li><li><a href="/2021/02/26/wife-breaks-up-man-kicking-out-gay-son/">Dad Kicks Out Teen Son For Being Gay, Wife Instantly Breaks Up With Him</a></li></ul>

Dad Hires Hitman To Attack Son For Being Gay - Hitman Realizes And Does This Instead
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Dad Hires Hitman To Attack Son For Being Gay - Hitman Realizes And Does This Instead

The hitman knew the right thing to do.An attempted hate crimeA 75-year-old Italian man from a suburb of Turin couldn't cope with his son's sexuality. So much so, that he offered €2,500 ($2,900 USD) to break his 43-year-old son's hands.“My son is a thug,” the father, who wasn't named, reportedly told the hitman, according to La Repubblica and reported in English by Metro Weekly. “Break his fingers.”A family dispute turned uglyThe son, who also wasn't named, initially started to fear for his safety when an argument over a house in France broke out into a fight. At the time, the father allegedly threatened to have his son's legs broken. The not-so-charming dad also falsely reported to police that his son had removed some of his teeth without permission.The initial threats and false allegations provoked the son to fear for his safety and for the father's wife of 42 years to demand a separation.The son's partner was brutally attackedA year later, the father became even more enraged after seeing photos circulating in the tabloids of his son, who works as a surgeon, and a popular actor. The father proceeded to hire two hitmen to beat up his son's partner, putting him in hospital. Scared for his life, the son changed his locks and didn't leave the house unaccompanied.“Apart from the patients I knew, I was afraid to make visits, never knowing who I might meet,” the son said, according to La Repubblica. Justice is servedIn the most recent incident, the father hired a Romanian hitman to break his son's hands — but the hitman wasn't having it. He came to his senses and warned the son, who alerted the police.Finally, years of dangerous family infighting came to an end when the father was charged and ultimately convicted on charges of aggravated assault and stalking, and sentenced to two years in jail. Signs of changeThis shocking story provides more evidence that we are still a long way from true equality — but help is on the way.According to the report, Italy is considering legislation explicitly meant to stop violence against women and LGBTQ people by labeling it a hate crime. While legislation like this is key, there is still plenty of work to do on a human-to-human level to educate everyone that discrimination based on sexuality or gender is wrong. Unquestionably, we're moving towards a more equal society, and people like this dad are becoming creeps of the past. More uplifting stories:50 Years After Their Love Was Torn Apart by Racism, They’re Finally MarriedPoor Man Who Missed Job Interview To Save A Life Had Employers Lining Up To Hire HimDomestic Abuse Survivor Marries The First Responder Who Saved Her LifeBrooklyn Landlord Cancels Rent For Hundreds Of Tenants, Setting An Unprecedented Example For Others