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How Nicole Kidman Saved Their Marriage After Keith Urban's Addictions "Blew it to Smithereens"

Keith Urban and Nicole Kidman may have a marriage made in (Hollywood) heaven, but it started in hell.Less than four months into their union, Urban's battle with addictions spiraled out of control, forcing Kidman to stage an intervention. With his life and marriage imploding, he sought help at the Betty Ford Center, his third rehab stint in eight years. Despite all of the voices telling her to walk away, Kidman held on fast to love.

Mom Disappears From Her 6-Year-Old Daughters Life - Then, One Unexpected Call Changes Everything
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Mom Disappears From Her 6-Year-Old Daughters Life - Then, One Unexpected Call Changes Everything

Brandy Hivner was only four years old when her life turned upside down. Her mother, struggling with her mental health and addiction, could no longer look after her. Brandy was taken away and adopted by her great-aunt.Over the course of the next two years, her mother would visit and call periodically to check in. All of that stopped however when Brandy was six years old.Her mother disappeared; a ghost living on the streets.It would be more than 15 years before Brandy saw her mother again.A Heart-Wrenching Reunion Nearly Two Decades in the MakingIt's Mother's Day 2021 and Brandy, now 23, finally comes face-to-face with the mother she hasn't seen since childhood. It's a reunion she has spent years dreaming about. A reunion over a decade and a half in the making. A reunion she wasn't expecting.In an emotional TikTok clip that has garnered over 1.7 million views, Brandy documents the moments leading up to it.Set to the haunting lyrics of "You Are the Reason," the video shows Brandy in the car on the way to meet her mom. She overlays it with the caption: "I haven't seen my mom in over 15 years. She's been homeless my whole life. I'm on my way to see her again."The camera then captures the heartwrenching moment she sees her through the window, trying and failing to hold back the tears. As a mother AND a daughter, this absolutely gutted me."I did not wake up in the morning thinking I was going to see her today, on mother's day," the caption reads. "Today was God's work."As Brandy walks toward her mother (who she doesn't show to protect her privacy) the video ends.Take a look and try not to cry:Reaction to the Video Was OverwhelmingIn addition to being viewed nearly 2 million times, the clip also racked up 157K likes and more than 1,200 comments.TikTok users flooded the comment section with support and love. But most of all, with the reassurance that Brandy was not alone."Hi I know we're strangers, my mom left me when I was 13 and has been homeless since and I just want you to know that you are not alone ❤️ God is good!""This made me cry I have not seen my mom in 21 years and I’m only 33 years old 😭😭😭""This touched my heart cause I haven’t seen my mom since I was 4 …. I’ll be 22 this year."It also left viewers wanting more. In response to her viral video, Brandy posted 3 follow-up TikToks sharing details about her background story and what happened with her mother. The Journey That Brought Them HereShortly after losing custody, Brandy and her mother lost almost all contact. The last time Brandy saw her mother, she was only six years old. A few years ago, Brandy’s older sister decided to take their mother in to try and get her help, but unfortunately, the situation ended up overwhelming her. “It was a lot for her to take in, and she wasn’t ready to see me,” Brandy explained.All that changed one fateful Mother's Day.Brandy was visiting with her sister and her family when their mom unexpectedly called. Her sister decided to "carpe diem" and seize the day and asked her if she would be willing to meet with them at a local McDonald's.Her mother hesitantly agreed. “I didn’t really believe it, it didn’t feel real to me at all,” Brandy said. That is, until the moment she saw her long-lost mom standing on the sidewalk “My heart f---ing stopped.”Struggling to control her emotions and "crying hysterically," Brandy took a few moments to collect herself in the car before finally walking over to her mom.After 15 years of separation, their emotional journey culminated in a joyous embrace that defied the odds."I just kept hugging her. I kept hugging her, and I just wasn't letting go. And she wasn't letting go either."Brandy HivnerWhere Are Brandy and Her Mother Now?Two years have passed since that fateful day. In her latest update on TikTok, Brandy shares that her mother is still on the streets but she's continued to maintain contact with her daughter, checking in on her periodically. And Brandy refuses to give up hope.She writes: "*Update* she's still on the streets, calls and checks in here and there. We are still trying to help her, just keep praying 🖤"Addiction and mental illness don't discriminate. Nor do they only affect the person battling them. And oftentimes, the collateral damage is great.And yet, even in the midst of the shrapnel and destruction, love perseveres, proving that regardless of time or circumstance, there is no love like the love between a mother and her child. A love that can never be broken.More from Goalcast:Poor Grandmother Takes in Little Boy Who Was Abandoned at Birth – So He Sells Flowers on the Street to Buy Her a HomeWoman Abandons Her Baby at Her Boyfriend’s House – He Decides to Raise the Kid Even if He Isn’t the Father

Woman Who Was on Most Wanted List Didnt Hesitate to Donate a Kidney to the Officer Who Threw Her in Jail
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Woman Who Was on Most Wanted List Didnt Hesitate to Donate a Kidney to the Officer Who Threw Her in Jail

The picture we are always shown, the one that is featured in movies and on TV, is of a convict being released from jail and hunting down their arresting officer for revenge. What we rarely hear about are the convicts who were stuck in a cycle of crime and feel gratitude to their arresting officers for forcibly breaking that cycle. How a Woman Completely Turned Her Life AroundPhoto by PixabayJocelynn James had spent years as a hardcore drug addict and criminal. She was in and out of jail 16 times between 2007 and 2012, dipping her toe in all flavors of criminal activity -- with the exception of murder. “I didn’t care about anything in life, and who I wronged. Robbery, theft, receiving property… Everything but murder, pretty much,” Jocelynn said.When she finally hit rock bottom, it was a wake up call. Now, she’s been clean and sober for a decade. She’s also made it her life’s mission to help other troubled women on their road to recovery. Jocelynn spent years rebuilding her life, and when she stumbled on a Facebook post in December of 2020, she knew that she had been given a second chance for a reason. A Fateful Facebook Post Would Help One Woman Make an Impact Terrell Potter had been her arresting officer on numerous occasions during the darkest years of her life. Instead of resenting him, Jocelynn credited him in part with saving her life. Without prison, she would very likely be dead. The post was made by Potter’s daughter explaining that he had kidney disease and would die if he didn’t get a donor soon. Potter had been searching high and low for a donor without success. He was on a transplant list, but it might take eight years to get an organ that way, and by then it would be too late. Immediately, Jocelynn knew what she had to do. Jocelynn got tested and found that she was a match for Potter -- her kidney could save his life! “I just knew that it said he needed a kidney, and the holy spirit told me right then that I had that man’s kidney,” she said. Jocelynn and Potter had successful surgeries, and the two were bonded for life. Potter was overwhelmed by the generosity shown to him by the former convict, and he knew from that moment on that she would always be considered family. “It’s like she’s another daughter. I mean, she’s just a part of us. It’s made a great relationship and a bond between us that can go forever. There’s no doubt about that.” Terrell PotterHow One Woman Showed Up as a Better PersonJocelynn James hasn’t stopped changing the world. She is the Founder and Executive Director of The Place of Grace, a non-profit that helps women recover from addiction and re-enter society as productive members. On the website, her impressive biography reads:“Jocelynn James Edmonds has been clean of opioids since November 5, 2012. She has made it her mission to help as many people as she can with substance abuse. Since August 2013, has had the pleasure of helping 803 women and 146 men get into facilities to seek help with their addiction. She also has an active jail ministry at the Franklin County Jail in Franklin County, Alabama that she started 5 years ago.”Jocelynn’s story is an inspirational one. It shows us that it is never too late to change course, or to show up as a better person. She is also an example of the healing power of helping others. When you live to serve your community, the rewards are priceless!More from Goalcast:Man Who Got Out of Prison for the 6th Time Spots His Arresting Officer – No One Could Have Predicted What He Did NextFrom Robbing Drug Dealers to Arresting Bad Guys – How a Violent Gang Member Became a Respected NY Police Chief

Woman Battling Alcoholism Cant Take Care of Her 2 Kids - So Her Boyfriend of One Year Raises Them as a Single Dad
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Woman Battling Alcoholism Cant Take Care of Her 2 Kids - So Her Boyfriend of One Year Raises Them as a Single Dad

*This story first appeared on Love What Matters on May 25, 2022.Families come in all shapes and sizes, and there is no one single path to becoming a family. Sometimes families are born. But sometimes, they are made. In a TikTok video that has gone viral with over 9.2M views, Jordan Benewiat gives a powerful tribute to the "world's best dad." A man who walked into her life when she was 7 years old and changed it forever.Grab the tissues, you're going to need them.How Her Mother's Boyfriend of One Year Ended Up Becoming Her Dad Photo by Lgh_9Jordan was seven years old when she met her mother's new boyfriend, Steve. Shortly afterward, he moved in. At her 8th birthday party, while Steve was working out of town, her mother, in an alcoholic rage, destroyed the house while the kids hid in the basement. The police were called and her mother was arrested.Battling years of alcoholism and being unable to care for her children, the courts decided to place Jordan and her older brother, Jarred, 11, into foster care. Steve, who had only known the kids for one year, didn't hesitate to ask for custody. "The first time I saw my dad cry was the day he thought we were being taken by the state," Jordan told Love What Matters. With no foster homes available, and their biological father in prison, the court granted Steve temporary emergency care. He immediately started down the long and complex road of adoption and, in the meantime, also got his foster care license so he could keep the kids.Three years later, Steve officially adopted Jordan and Jarred. "The happiest day of my life," Jordan said.The Viral TikTok That Proves He Really Is “The World’s Best Dad”Jordan shares their incredible journey on TikTok in a 29-second clip that has captured the hearts of millions. She captions it: "Truly my hero since the day he came into my life."In the video, she shows various family photos of Steve, showing up for her and her brother throughout their childhoods. The text overlay reads: "Our birth mom was an alcoholic and couldn't be a parent so her boyfriend she had known only a year who owed her and her kids absolutely nothing, became the world's best dad."It continues:"Raised us as a single father, took on two kids completely alone, and he never once hesitated when he got the chance to adopt us."If this isn't the definition of a true hero, I don't know what is.How One Man Proved the Power of LoveSteve, already a dad to three grown daughters, who he also raised single-handedly, could have easily just walked away. He owed Jordan and Jarred nothing. And yet, when their mother stepped out, he stepped in. And he stayed.He made a life-altering decision to take on someone else's kids and raise them as his own. He chose them.And when we get to look another person in the eyes and say, “I choose you,” there’s something to be said about the power of that kind of love."He showed up every time we needed him to. He gave me back the second half of my childhood," Jordan said. Jordan and Jarred were finally able to have the childhood they'd only ever dreamed of. Thanks to Steve, their lives changed dramatically."I was finally able to ride my bike, go to school, play sports, and never worry about dinner," Jordan said. "He gave me someone you want to call when my life feels like it's falling apart. He gave me the safety I had never known. My life wouldn't look at all like it does without him."How One Person Can Make All the Difference in a Child’s LifeBecause of Steve's love and dedication, Jordan has been able to heal from her past traumas and grow into a happy, healthy young adult."I just want people to know that our dad is our hero. I remember every feeling I felt for the seven years we didn't know him and if it wasn't for him I'd probably have over 18 years of that pain under my belt," Jordan said.Steve's actions are a testament to the transformative impact one person can have on a child's life, offering stability, guidance, and unconditional love.He is also a testament to the extraordinary power of a father's love. A love not defined by blood, but by the unbreakable bonds we create.

Is Golf Addiction a Risk to Your Health?
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Is Golf Addiction a Risk to Your Health?

The sun is shining, birds are chirping, the breeze is just right. The morning has begun and your first thought is: this is a perfect day for golf. Out of all sports, golf is one of the most wholesome. There’s a reason why many top-level executives take to the green during negotiations or networking sessions. It’s gentle, slow, and reflective. It’s the perfect mix of facing your frustrations and successes and socializing with friends.RELATED: Are You at Risk of Exercise Addiction?As a sport played in picturesque scenery, golf seems harmless. However, there is a risk of its allure becoming a hindrance. The need to reduce your handicap, improve the technique of your swing, or find new courses to explore, can become intrusive. If left unchecked, it’s possible to develop a golf addiction, where enjoyment of the sport is replaced by a dependency.The Science of Golf AddictionAddiction is challenging to define scientifically. In the past, it was limited to drugs or alcohol. Now, anything from sex, the internet, gaming, gambling, or social media is recognized for its addictive potential. Psychological research separates addiction into two forms: substance addiction and behavioral addiction. The first is the commonly understood chemical dependency. The latter, however, is complex, and covers “any source which is capable of stimulating an individual.”What’s intriguing about behavioral addiction is that it can form around behaviors that don’t seem unhealthy on the surface, from physical exercise to work. That includes hobbies, and not many hobbies match the level of dedication and enthusiasm many people have for golf. However, it’s important to separate the enjoyment of the game from a genuine addiction. The diagnostic criteria for behavioral addiction are:Salience: the activity dominates thinking, feeling, and behavior.Mood modification: the activity is used to escape difficult feelings, or cause feelings of pleasure.Tolerance: increasing amounts are needed in order to be satisfied.Conflict: the activity leads to falling out with friends and family who are affected by the addictive behavior.Relapse: falling back on old behaviors and returning to the activity, even in spells of deliberate abstinence.Above all else, the sign that golf has become less of a hobby, and more of an addiction, is how much it interferes with your life. If you choose golf instead of seeing friends or family, spend lots of money on new equipment, feel anxious if you can't play, or escape day-to-day activities on the green, the signs suggest golf is starting to have a negative impact.What Makes Golf Addictive?With a market value in America alone at $26 billion, it’s clear that golf has a wide appeal. Unlike other sports, golf is less taxing physically, is an ideal excuse to enjoy the open doors for long periods of time, and the game itself has a delicate balance of challenge and reward. In the words of Arnold Palmer, one of the early pioneers of the sport’s popularity:“Golf is deceptively simple and endlessly complicated; it satisfies the soul and frustrates the intellect. It is at the same time rewarding and maddening – and it is without a doubt the greatest game mankind has ever invented.”Factor in the possibility of constant improvement, and continued opportunities to start afresh with each shot, and the craving for progress or escape can develop. However, underneath all behavioral addictions, there is an emotional component. The primary factor of gold addiction is a dependency on the psychological or emotional rewards from playing the game itself, from experiencing flow state to feelings of peace or achievement.In addition, secondary factors, such as the need for validation or approval, and avoidance of difficult emotions, all contribute to excessive behavior with the game. Less than the direct rewards, golf then compensates for other difficult areas in life. For example, trying to improve your handicap in order to impress friends or business partners, to compensate for low self-esteem.Exploring Your Inner Relationship to GolfThere’s a limited benefit to attempting to categorize whether your relationship to golf is addictive. What matters is your desire to identify whether the game has started to dominate your life in a negative way. Consider how frequently you play golf, how much time you spend each week preparing, how much money you spend, and how much the sport dominates your thinking.RELATED: Caffeine Addiction 101: Everything You Need to KnowConsider journaling all the benefits you get from playing golf, including the emotional reward, and any concerns you have that the game may be taking up too much space in your life. Have you had pushback from friends or family? Have people expressed concern at how much you're playing?Next, explore your motivation. What triggers your desire to play golf? Is it simply due to the enjoyment of the sport? Or is your golf playing a response to certain emotions or life situations, becoming not just a hobby, but a coping mechanism? For example, do you crave playing when anxious, angry, or stressed?Be self-compassionate as you explore, and consider talking to friends or family as you go through the process. With addiction, it’s common for those close to the addict to notice before the addict themselves, so be prepared to have conversations with people who may bring light to your blind spots.The Steps to Overcome Golf AddictionIf you identify addictive qualities in your relationship with golf, the next step is to consider how you can find greater balance. Do you have addictive qualities outside of the sport? If your addiction to the game is in isolation from other areas of life, it could be a case of your love of the game becoming excessive, and some simple readjustments can do the trick.Fortunately, these grey zone addictions are starting to be taken seriously. Psychological research notes that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), in particular, is effective in working with the underlying beliefs and thinking processes that contribute to addiction. Part of the challenge with behavioral addiction is that, more often than not, you can't fully give up the source of addiction. An alcoholic can cut out drinks. A food addict can’t cut out food.You don’t necessarily have to quit the game completely. With inner work, emotional intelligence, looking into root causes, and support from friends and family, you might be able to find a better balance. For example, spending less on equipment, or playing less frequently in order to prioritize family time or your marriage. Finding the pathway through is much like the game itself. It’ll require patience, skill, and repetition. But when you find the sweet spot, you'll know the work was worth it.KEEP READINGHow To Improve Self-Awareness: A Comprehensive And Practical Guide

Tom Hardy Just Won a Big Award in Secret - And It Might Make You See Him Differently 
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Tom Hardy Just Won a Big Award in Secret - And It Might Make You See Him Differently 

Tom Hardy made a special appearance this past Saturday, September 16, 2022, at Oakgrove School in Milton Keynes, England, where he attended the 2022 UMAC Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Open Championship. What was shocking about the surprise visit was that he wasn’t there to watch the tournament, but rather competing in it!RELATED: Fitness Saved Her From Addiction and Homelessness, So She Opened a Gym to Help Others Stay SoberLow and behold, fans would later find out through several photos circulated on social media that Tom Hardy won gold in the tournament within his division. In the photo, Hardy is photographed holding up a certificate with a gold medal around his neck, a proud Edward Hardy- his real name, strikes a smirk for the photo.Many people know Hardy for his roles in Warrior, Batman, Mad Max, and more recently for the HBO series Peaky Blinders. He has often been in headlines for the tough and macho characters he plays on-screen, but what people may not have known is that Hardy’s love for martial arts has become his saving grace.Tom’s Journey With Alcoholism and AddictionGettyTom’s exposure to drugs and alcohol started at a very young age and he is very open about his struggles with this early on in life. He mentioned that he had started experimenting with drugs at 13 years old, which led to him continuing on this path, ultimately leading to an arrest for gun possession and grand theft auto at 17 years old.The need for drugs continued to drive his life, and when he was 19, fate had other plans for the would-be actor. In dire need of his next fix and having not a penny to his name, Tom entered into a modelling contest on the show The Big Breakfast in which he won. The video of his appearance is still accessible today.This led to a contract and the opening of several doors into acting. Despite being expelled and kicked out of several prestigious schools before, Hardy decided to study method acting in London. The success of this landed him his first ever role in the war series Band of Brothers.RELATED: Robert Downey Jr. Bares His Heart in Emotional Speech, Opens Up About Dark Past and Delivers Powerful Message of HopeHis next project was the high profile Oscar winning film Black Hawk Down; Hardy still recalls that as a painful period when he had a near-death experience. While filming for the movie, Hardy woke up after a night of partying, realizing he had overdosed on drugs. The doctor at the time told him that if he didn’t turn his life around, he wouldn’t be around for much longer. This was advice that he would take to heart.Tom’s Journey Into Rehabilitation and LoveGettyAfter the support and push from his family and friends, Tom decided to get the help he needed. He knew he had to do something. His first step was joining Alcoholics Anonymous where he was able to find the assistance needed to become sober and free.RELATED: Tom Hardy and Charlotte Riley Prove The Power Of Timing And An Open MindIn 2009, Hardy met actress Charlotte Riley while filming Wuthering Heights. Although Riley was skeptical about the recovering addict, she gave him a chance. Hardy took this as a true blessing in his life and proposed to the actress as soon as he could. While the two actors were engaged Hardy told Elle, “I can wait for her as long as it takes.”His relationship with Riley was one that would continually keep Hardy in check, motivating him to stay sober. He has two children with his now wife and believes his family is what keeps him grounded and on the right path.Tom’s Second Love and Saving GraceLionsgateAfter years of being sober, Hardy is still outspoken about his struggles with addiction in the sense he fears he could fall back into old habits at any given point. The challenges he continually faces in trying to stay sober and not be tempted, especially being in Hollywood and the spotlight, is an ongoing battle.Tom Hardy has suffered from dysthymia, a disorder in which one is plagued by vicious cycles of depression. He said in a very candid interview with Prince’s Trust (where he serves as an ambassador), a charity that helps people get their life back on track, “Everything scares me. Not being in control, not knowing, anticipation, waiting for something to go wrong.”To help stay focused on the road to recovery, Hardy turned to martial arts to help keep his mental state healthy. In particular, he invested his time studying jiu-jitsu, he is currently a blue belt.While Hardy says being a father is his main focus and priority for staying sober, his love for martial arts has really transformed his thinking. He first began training when he got the role for the 2011 film Warrior and since then Hardy has continued to train.RELATED: Eminem Celebrates 10 Years Sober, Inspires People Struggling with Addiction to Open UpWith his love for jiu-jitsu and his wife and children to keep him grounded, it seems Hardy has found his calling in life. In an interview with Esquire, Hardy says, “Once you’ve established yourself you can stop making that much noise. Because you’re here now, what are you going to do? And what is enough? What do you need? What do my family need? So that is very relevant. I think everybody needs a little bit of their own thing that they do. I like jiu-jitsu and sourdough. That fulfils me.”More recently, Hardy has taken a more active approach in competing in various tournaments. This recent UMAC win is not the only win under his belt, but he also won in the REORG Open Jiu-Jitsu Championship several months ago.Winning Gold and Winning Life@taped_fingersWhen Tom Hardy showed up at Oakgrove School, many onlookers were shocked to see the Oscar nominated actor. Organizers of the event had managed to keep things under wraps after discovering that Hardy would be showing up to the tournament.The humbled passion of Hardy practicing his art is inspiring to see. His level of professionalism and down-to-earth nature is evident in showing up to this event. Although a celebrity, he is truly just a guy who wants to show his love of the sport. People who were at the event were able to take photographs with the actor, only further showing his humanness and humility as a person.READING: How Stranger Things’ Jamie Campbell Bower Overcame AddictionSeveral days after winning the tournament, Hardy took to his @tomhardy Instagram to post a picture of himself at the match, along with a lengthy caption bringing up his past battle with addiction. He says, “Addiction is difficult for me and extremely close to my heart.” He further talks about his love for martial arts, “Simple training, for me (as a hobby and a private love) has been fundamentally key to further develop a deeper sense of inner resilience, calm, and well being.” It has undoubtedly helped him through tough times where he feared he’d fall back into his old habits.Tom Hardy’s story of addiction and rehabilitation is one that many find surprising. But what is more inspiring about his journey is seeing the different aspects of his life that he invests in and runs with. He knows where his heart is and it has become his consistent motivation needed to continue fighting for his life.For anyone who can relate to the experiences of Tom Hardy, his journey is a testament and living proof that there is hope and fulfillment after a life of addiction and alcoholism.KEEP READING: Jamie Lee Curtis Bravely Reveals Decade-Long Struggle with Opioid Addiction, Shows That Even the Mega Successful Have Painful Secrets

Bella Hadid’s Toxic Relationship with Alcohol Is a Lesson for Immediate Change
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Bella Hadid’s Toxic Relationship with Alcohol Is a Lesson for Immediate Change

The last two years have done a toll on people globally. The term "Pandemic Drinking" reared its head, with many turning to alcohol to fill too much time at home, numb the stress, and forget the state of the world. Supermodel Bella Hadid is the latest celebrity to take an introspective look at her own relationship with alcohol and admit there is a better way to live. RELATED: Fitness Saved Her From Addiction and Homelessness, So She Opened a Gym to Help Others Stay SoberHadid isn’t the only celebrity to stumble in their sobriety. Like everyday people, celebrities face stress and situations that challenge their commitment to staying sober. Rather than feeling shame if they relapse, these celebrities picked themselves up and recommitted to their sobriety, remembering relapse is part of recovery.Bella Hadid In an interview with InStyle Magazine, Hadid speaks about her unhealthy relationship with alcohol, how it affected her depression and anxiety, and how she has, "made brain care my ultimate priority.""While I rarely get 'drunk' anymore, I've completely stopped drinking hard alcohol… I have learned what my body can and can't handle."RELATED: Bella Hadid’s Biggest Regret and Rivalry Reveal So Much about Celebrity AnxietyHadid has worked closely with Bloom, a non-alcoholic energy drink, in creating the perfect mix to help others who may not be imbibing but want a healthy rosé alternative. Plus side? No more hangovers. MacklemoreMacklemore revealed that he had been sober since 2008 and, during the summer of 2020 when we were all locked in our houses because of the COVID-19 pandemic, he, like a lot of people, turned to alcohol to deal with the stress, boredom, and anxiety of that period of time. In an interview with People in January 2022, he said, "It was really painful for myself and for the people who loved me. I stopped doing the work," he said at the time. "When I have to be still and exist within my own head, that's where my disease lives… [But] I'm like, 'You know what? I don't need to pretend like I'm some perfect dude in recovery.' I am not at all, and there's no shame."RELATED: This Is What Happens to Your Body and Mind When You Give up AlcoholThe rapper posted a video on his @mackelmore Tik Tok account where he admitted that he’d relapsed. However, as of that video, he had been sober again for 694 days – a whole year and a half. That’s an accomplishment he can be proud of. Addiction recovery is a one-day at a time.. It is a disease and must be treated as such in any approach to sobriety.Robert Downey Jr.Robert Downey Jr. had an infamous struggle with drugs, alcohol, and sobriety. He was arrested several times on drug charges from 1996 to 2001. He was found to be in possession of cocaine, heroin, and marijuana (before it was legal in California) several times. He entered rehab several times and after getting out, relapsed again and again. In April 1996 he was pulled over for speeding in Los Angeles and was in possession of heroin, cocaine, and a loaded handgun at the time. He was arrested. RELATED: Robert Downey Jr. Bares His Heart in Emotional Speech, Opens Up About Dark Past and Delivers Powerful Message of HopeWhen he was released a month later, he was under the influence of drugs and entered his neighbor’s house and went to sleep in their bed. He was given three years of probation and had to take court-ordered drug tests regularly. He missed one of those tests and was sent to jail for six months in 1997. In 1999 that happened again, and he was sentenced to three years in prison. He’s been sober since at least 2003 and credits his wife with helping him get and stay sober. Since Downey Jr. has been sober, he’s resurrected his career, playing Iron Man in the successful franchise, among many other roles. Demi LovatoDemi Lovato struggled with drugs and alcohol since they were a child. Lovato’s first trip to rehab was in 2010. They entered a sober house in 2013 to cope with their drug and alcohol issues as well as their eating disorder and bipolar disorder. In 2018, Lovato announced that they’d been sober for six years via their ballad “Sober.” A month after the song was released, Lovato was rushed to the hospital after an overdose nearly killed them. RELATED: How to Support a Recovering Addict on the Road to SobrietyThey were in the hospital for two weeks and then in rehab for three months. During an episode of the YouTube series Dancing With the Devil, Lovato said, “I had three strokes, I had a heart attack. My doctors said that I had five to 10 more minutes.” Today, Lovato calls themselves “California sober,” in that they drink in moderation and smoke marijuana. Miley CyrusMiley Cyrus struggled with drugs and alcohol, but she was six months sober as of June 2020 and feeling great. And then the pandemic lockdowns started and life for everyone, even a wealthy superstar, ground to a halt. RELATED: Miley Cyrus Celebrates New Sobriety Milestone, Inspires Those Struggling Through Pandemic To PersevereIn an interview with Elle UK, the “Wrecking Ball” singer said, “I like a lot of people, being completely honest, during the pandemic fell off... and I would never sit here and go, "I've been f***ing sober.” She turned to alcohol to take the edge off during lockdowns. Fortunately for Miley, that didn’t last, and she got sober again in early November 2020.Kelly OsbourneKelly Osbourne had a lengthy battle with an addiction to painkillers that sent her to rehab three times by the time she was 24. She first went to Promises in Malibu in 2004. She went back to rehab in 2005. Then, when she moved to L.A. in 2009, she relapsed. She told People at the time, "I couldn't see into tomorrow... It's so embarrassing, the number of times I've thrown myself down the stairs…and hurt myself to get pills." RELATED: How to Support a Recovering Addict on the Road to SobrietyIn April 2021, after almost four years of sobriety, she had a relapse. She revealed this in an Instagram Story, saying "This is a little hard for me to talk about, but …I relapsed…But I am back on track… I am sober today and I'm gonna be sober tomorrow, but it truly is just one day at a time." Ben AffleckNewlywed Ben Affleck has struggled with sobriety over the years and has had several relapses. In 2019, he’d been sober for a year and had a very public relapse after being in and out of rehab for the few years leading up to that. RELATED: Ben Affleck’s Sobriety Journey Proves You’re More Than Your Parents’ MistakesHis relapse happened two months after he’d been sober for a year. He was seen stumbling as he was returning to his ex-wife Jennifer Garner’s house. TMZ was outside the house with a camera and Affleck said, “It happens, it’s a slip, but I’m not going to let it derail me.” His ex-wife helped him get back on track. Dax ShepherdDax Shepherd had been sober for 16 years after struggling with an alcohol and cocaine problem. In August 2020, he was in a motorcycle accident and was prescribed the painkiller Vicodin for the pain from the four broken ribs the accident caused. This caused a relapse. During an episode of his podcast Armchair Expert, he said he was taking eight 30mg Vicodin pills a day and keeping it a secret from everyone. RELATED: Scott Steindorff: Killing Myself with Drugs and Alcohol"I know that's an amount that's going to result in a pretty bad withdrawal. And I start getting really scared, and I'm starting to feel really lonely. And I just have this enormous secret." He admitted he was high on Vicodin at the meeting celebrating his 16 years of sobriety. By the time the podcast aired in September 2020, he had sought help and had been sober again for 11 days.These celebs may make going sober look easy, but each one has struggled, persisted, and thrived. They teach us that change is possible and introspection is necessary at times to ultimately become the best version of ourselves. KEEP READING: Celebrates 10 Years Sober, Inspires People Struggling with Addiction to Open Up

Dopamine Fasting: What Is It & How Does It Work?
Self-Development

Dopamine Fasting: What Is It & How Does It Work?

Dopamine fasting is a trend that originated in Silicon Valley. It describes an attempt to counteract ingrained habits that can become addictive. It's a practice of avoiding stimulation for a certain period of time, to avoid any spikes in dopamine. The question is, is this a trend worth trying? This article will explain the details of dopamine fasting, the science behind it, and a number of steps you can take to try for yourself.What is dopamine?In simple terms, dopamine makes us feel good. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that plays a role in the brain and body, linked with reward, pleasure, learning, and motivation. Dopamine encourages us to seek out pleasurable activities, like a bridge between craving and the fulfillment of craving, boosting energy levels and motivation.Its precise role is still not fully understood, though, and often misinterpreted. Dopamine is active with the body’s fight or flight system and recent studies have found that dopamine is involved in unpleasurable activities, too, such as touching something hot. This is likely because it teaches us not only what to seek to find pleasure, but what not to seek to avoid pain.Humans are hardwired to seek reward. If you take a cynical view of human nature, you could argue that we are driven by chemical highs and hormonal responses to our environment — in particular the dopamine hit of falling in love, receiving likes and shares on social media, emotional eating, drinking a strong cup of coffee.Fortunately, humans are more than biology. We have the ability to self-regulate and make decisions based on rationality. We learn delayed gratification. We can choose not to ignore impulses in favor of future fulfillment. But this isn’t easy when living in a world full of triggers; from social media, mobile technology, binge consumption, and the normalization of numbing emotions with the temporary relief of addictive behaviors.Why dopamine is important to understandBecause dopamine is released when eating food, during sex, and when taking recreational drugs such as cocaine, it's earned the label of a feel-good chemical. (wundervisuals / Getty)In recent times there’s growing evidence for its role in mobile phone use and social media. Pioneers of this technology have spoken out about the “feedback loops” that keep us hooked to our screens. Chamath Palihapitiya, the former Vice President of Facebook’ User Growth, went as far to say these technologies were “destroying society.” He believes that reducing impulsive behavior caused by these feedback loops is essential.The words “destroying society” are strong words, but not entirely misguided. “The brain responds to this increase by decreasing dopamine transmission — not just back down to its natural baseline rate, but below that baseline,” Anne Lembke, author of Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence, told Stanford. “Repeated exposure to the same or similar stimuli ultimately creates a chronic dopamine-deficit state, wherein we're less able to experience pleasure.”This need for more stimulation, to become sensitive to the reward circuit, leads to addictive behavior. Our brain’s reward system is sensitive, and must be treated with care. An imbalance of dopamine is linked to various mental illnesses, from schizophrenia to Parkinson's. Because dopamine is involved in motivation, a lack of the chemical is linked to anhedonia, a symptom of depression where people lose interest in enjoyable activities. With this chemical, balance is everything, and promoting values-aligned health behaviors is key. What is a dopamine detox?Because dopamine acts as a reward center, a dopamine detox is just a mechanism that encourages a deliberate practice of avoiding activities that stimulate the release of the chemical. The Silicon Valley trend of dopamine fasting takes this to the extreme — participants are encouraged to avoid food and drink in a form of intermittent fasting, (apart from water), excessive internet usage, TV or mobile phone use, reading, and sex or masturbation. Some people avoid all human interaction and family demands, even eye contact. It’s essentially Digital Detox Plus for our dopamine receptors.When reducing dopamine during your day, you’re still allowed to meditate, think, walk in nature, or write a diary entry. It's a way of returning to baseline, or removing external “stimulants,” and allowing the brain’s sensitivity to dopamine return. In theory, this leads to more sensitivity and less addictive behavior.(Getty)Proponents of the wellness trend claim it can “reset the brain,” by returning to the baseline level Anne Lembke refers to. However, some experts have called the term itself misleading and prefer “stimulation fast” instead. We can’t forget that dopamine is essential for healthy brain functioning, and it's almost impossible to consciously regulate the release of the chemical itself. For example, studies have found that meditation can boost dopamine by up to 64 percent after one hour.Is there science behind dopamine detoxing?Feeling good is a complex process, especially when it comes to the biochemical components, and how they contribute. Practices that look to take time away from bad habits, turn off social media, take time to slow down and reflect, all have a positive impact on mood. Although a dopamine fast might not reduce dopamine levels or offer a genuine “fast” from their presence in the brain and body, the practice does remove triggers that stimulate the dopamine response. Experts agree that alone is healthy.Taking time away from impulsive behavior is beneficial, too. Brain scans have found links between impulsive behaviors and dopamine; when the craving for a reward is strong, people tend to engage in risky behaviors in order to fulfill the craving. Learning to manage behaviors that can be overly addictivehelps weaken this process. The unhealthy ways the world has changed, in contrast to the slow evolution of the human brain and body, is highlighted by dopamine. Gone are the days of foraging for food, only socializing IRL (away from Instagram, Facebook, or WhatsApp), and enjoying “natural” hits of the chemical. Lembke expands on this problem by offering a sobering view:“Because we’ve transformed the world from a place of scarcity to a place of overwhelming abundance: Drugs, food, news, gambling, shopping, gaming, texting, sexting, Facebooking, Instagramming, YouTubing, tweeting… the increased numbers, variety, and potency of highly rewarding stimuli today is staggering. The smartphone is the modern-day hypodermic needle, delivering digital dopamine 24/7 for a wired generation.”When an expert refers to the smartphone as a “modern-day hypodermic needle,” it’s worth paying attention.4 ways to lower dopamine levelsSetting the intention to be aware of addictive sorts of behaviors, to break the loop of seeking constant stimulation, to take breaks to allow the brain’s pathways to recover, will all contribute to improved balance and regulation. The below steps provide a solid foundation to behaviors that, ultimately, help regular dopamine levels:1. Understand addictive qualities apply to us allImpulsive or addictive types of behaviors can be hard to detect, precisely because of the belief that addictions only operate in extremes, related to a select few substances. Instead, addiction is on a spectrum. In Eight Step Recovery, Valeria Mason-John uses the teachings of Buddhism to recover from addictive qualities. “Human nature has an inbuilt tendency toward addiction… Thinking itself can have an addictive quality to it… We live in a world where many of us self-medicate in response to hardship.”Explore with honesty and compassion the areas of life where you have addictive tendencies. Start with awareness.2. Get comfortable with uncomfortable feelingsWe’ve all been there. You arrive somewhere, start to feel a little self-conscious, bored, or anxious, and before you know it, your phone’s in your hand, you’re scrolling on Instagram, or watching YouTube, and avoiding the uncomfortable feeling. (David Espejo / Getty)These behaviors are often ways of avoiding pain or suffering. If you can withstand difficulty, you can break the cycle of distraction and better manage addictive behaviors.The most effective way of doing this is practicing mindfulness. Learn to sit with thoughts, feelings, sensations and emotions without judgment or resistance. Become curious.3. Try to follow experience impulses, without acting upon themImpulsivity and addiction go hand-in-hand. A craving arises, the desire to fulfil that craving follows, and without a second’s break, the movement to act out follows. It might seem that this is all one instinctive movement, but in truth, there’s always a possibility to slow down, to witness the impulse, feel the craving, and avoid behaving in a way that perpetuates the behavior.It takes time and self-awareness, but with effort, your ability to control impulses will improve. In my experience, this operates across the board. It doesn’t discriminate. So if you’re looking to improve impulsivity with social media use, you’ll have to practice the same with food, sex, and other cravings. 4. Take time outAnd, last but not least, something the trend of dopamine fasting gets right is the value of time taken away from the addictive technologies and apps we find ourselves surrounded in. Make detoxing part of your wellness plan, in whatever way that looks for you — perhaps one day per week in nature without your phone or laptop, or the occasional retreat.(Getty)In conclusionFads are fads, trends are trends. Although it's tempting to prove or disprove their effectiveness, why not try to distill what works, let go of what doesn’t, and optimize its application in your own life? The science of dopamine fasting might be questionable, but the benefits of its application aren’t.Unfortunately, we live in a world of over-stimulation and environments full of triggers for impulsive or addictive behavior. Working against this takes effort and patience. But the reward is a form of freedom away from the temporary relief of the occasional dopamine hit. And that’s a pleasure that doesn’t depend on anything outside of you.

Binge Drinking: What It Is & How Does It Affect Your Life?
Mental Health

Binge Drinking: What It Is & How Does It Affect Your Life?

If you drink alcohol, you've likely woken up with a hangover at some point in your life. Excessive drinking in a short period of time can lead to a host of adverse health effects the morning after. This can include headaches, fatigue, nausea and vomiting, just to name a few. You may even have trouble remembering how you made it home, or found that you've left your credit card at the bar again. But when does the occasional hangover start to tread into more dangerous territory that results in liver disease or worse? Binge drinking, or consuming too much alcohol, is a common problem in the U.S. If you're concerned that you or a loved one may be having one too many one too many times recently, learning more about alcohol misuse can help inform your next step.In this article, we'll define how many alcoholic drinks is too much, explore the signs of alcohol abuse to look out for, and discuss addiction treatment and options for those who may need them.What is binge drinking?The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism defines binge drinking as a pattern of drinking alcohol that brings the blood alcohol concentration (BAC) to 0.08 percent or higher. An individual's BAC refers to the percentage of alcohol in their blood at a given time. In the U.S., 0.08 is considered legally intoxicated. But what is a “pattern,” and at what point does a preponderance for binge drinks turn into something dangerous?The definition is different for men and womenIt's important to understand that drinking alcohol impacts everyone differently. Body weight, metabolism and other factors depend on how efficiently we process alcohol. For women, binge drinking is defined as consuming four or more drinks in the span of two hours – which is the typical amount of time and alcohol it takes to reach the 0.08 metric. For men, drinking five or more drinks in the same time frame is considered binge drinking. It's essential to understand binge drinkers in the context of drink strength as well. Different alcoholic beverages contain varying amounts of alcohol. In the United States, one drink equates to any beverage that contains 0.6 ounces of alcohol. Typical examples can include:5 oz of wine (12% alcohol content)8 oz of malt liquor (7% alcohol content)12 oz of beer (5% alcohol content)1.5 oz of 80-proof liquor (40% alcohol content)Binge drinking and alcohol use disorder When defining binge drinking, it's also essential to keep in mind what binge drinking does not mean. Alcoholism, known today as Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD), is defined as a condition in which a person has a physical need or compulsion to drink alcohol despite the negative impact it has on the person's life. The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism defines AUD as a "problem drinking that becomes severe." Binge drinking can eventually lead to Alcohol Use Disorder, but this is not always the case. In fact, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), 90% of people who drink in excess do not fall under the criteria for Alcohol Use Disorders. Still, regular binge drinking leads to consequences and should be taken seriously. How common is binge drinking and alcohol abuse?Binge drinking is a prevalent problem across the U.S. – but research shows it significantly impacts young adults (more specifically, college students). One national survey on drug use and health found that 33% of full-time college students reported behavior consistent with binge drinking. The same survey found that 4% of preteens and teens ages 12-17 reported having engaged in binge drinking behavior as well. Though not as widespread, binge drinking has also seen an increase in adults over 65 – 10% of them reported binge drinking within the month before the survey. One in four women who took part in the recent survey reported binge drinking, with an average of around three to five binge drinking incidences per month. Binge drinking effectsThere are both short- and long-term effects associated with binge drinking. Consuming an excessive amount of alcohol can lead to symptoms like headaches, vomiting, diarrhea, and others. More seriously, it can result in alcohol poisoning. This occurs when a person consumes a severely high amount of alcohol in a short period of time, to the point that the person's blood-alcohol level is so high it becomes poisonous. A person experiencing alcohol poisoning needs to seek medical care immediately, as this can be a life-threatening condition. The symptoms of alcohol poisoning can include vomiting, irregular breathing and/or confusion. The person experiencing alcohol poisoning may become unresponsive, pass out or go into a coma. BlackoutsBinge drinking can also result in blackouts. While many popular movies like "The Hangover" make light of alcohol-related blackouts, in reality this can lead to a host of injuries and unsafe behaviors. Alcohol-related blackouts occur after excessive alcohol consumption that impairs the part of the brain responsible for making memories. Depending on how much alcohol they consumed, a person may experience a fragmentary blackout – where bits and pieces of the night are missing from their memory, or an "en bloc" blackout – where memories of a span of hours or the entire night are not made and cannot be remembered. Even if you haven't consumed enough alcoholic beverages to blackout, binge drinking impairs your motor and decision-making skills. This means that binge drinking comes with a higher risk of bodily injury and heightens the risk of poor decision-making that can lead to unsafe situations. Alcohol consumption impacts almost all tissue in the body. Because of this, repeatedly drinking to excess can cause damage to the liver and pancreas and increases your risk of liver, breast, colorectal and other types of cancers. Binge drinking can even lead to death in some cases. Signs you're binge drinkingDetermining whether or not you are a binge drinker may not be as easy as counting up the number of alcoholic beverages you've consumed. Here are a few signs you may be a binge drinker.You don't drink in moderationYou don't drink alcohol frequently, but it's in excess when you do. If you find yourself justifying the amount of alcohol you consume with the point that you don't often go out, this could be a sign that binge drinking is an issue for you.You consistently wake up feeling hungover or ill after a night of drinking(Tim Kitchen / Getty)If every time you drink alcohol, you feel hungover the next day, this could be due to the amount of alcohol you're consuming. Having a drink or two over the span of a night shouldn't lead to you feeling ill, vomiting or irritable the next day. If you constantly find yourself hungover after a night of drinking, it could be a sign of binge drinking – and time to pay more attention to the amount of alcohol you're drinking.You drink all weekendWeekends can be a time to let loose and have some fun. But if keeping your alcohol consumption to the weekends means you constantly overdo it, it likely means you're binge drinking. You have trouble remembering the nightYou wake up the following day after a night of drinking and can't remember where you put your keys – only to find them still in your front door. This might seem like a slight misstep or even make for a funny story. But if not remembering details from a night out becomes a pattern, you may be binge drinking. You have trouble setting limitsIf you constantly find yourself going out for "just one drink" after work or with friends – and it always ends up being far more than just one – this could be a sign of a bad habit. Trying and failing to set limits to how much you're drinking may mean that the habit has gotten out of hand, and you may want to consider seeking help. How to stop binge drinkingNot sure where to start? Here are a few steps to take to help get your binging under control. Identify your binge drinking triggersThe first step to stop binge drinking is identifying the motivators behind this behavior. Take stock of who you binge drink with, where you binge drink and when you binge drink. If there's a particular group of friends or atmosphere where you find yourself most tempted to binge drink, it may be necessary to take some space in order to get your habit under control.Find healthy coping mechanismsIf you notice a pattern in your binge drinking, explore what feelings are triggering this behavior. If you're binge drinking in response to a stressful workday, consider methods that may help you unwind. Consider incorporating a run into your post-workday routine. If you find yourself missing the social interaction of being out at a bar, joining a sports league or gym with a friend can be a fun way to connect over a healthier activity. Get support from family and friendsMake it known to others in your life that binge drinking is a behavior you're struggling with and ask for their support to help you change. Having a support system in place is key to shifting a bad habit like this one.Celebrate small winsStopping yourself from binge drinking can be incredibly difficult – especially if it's a habit you've done for a while. It's easy to focus on failures rather than successes. Don't forget to celebrate the small wins in your journey to stop binge drinking. Setting smaller goals to work toward – like two whole weeks or a month of not binge drinking – can make the overall goal feel less stressful to accomplish. Treat yourself to something fun and rewarding when you reach small milestones. Stop drinking alcohol completelyIf being around alcohol or setting limits on how many drinks you consume isn't working for you, cutting alcohol out altogether may actually be a more manageable approach. Programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous can help you along in your journey and allow you to hear from others who have managed to quit drinking as well. SummaryBinge drinking is a widespread issue that impacts many people in the United States. Regular binge drinking can lead to dangerous and potentially life-threatening issues like alcohol poisoning and can develop into an addiction like Alcohol Use Disorder. If binge drinking is an issue for you, there are resources that can help you stop drinking. Sites like Rethinking Drinking or the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism are great places to start learning more about binge drinking and to find the help you need. And if you’re not quite ready to take that step but value your mental health, perhaps take a gander at some of these mental health quotes to inspire you to prioritize the health of both your body and your mind.

Jessica Simpson's Rock Bottom Picture Reveals the Power of Vulnerability
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Jessica Simpson's Rock Bottom Picture Reveals the Power of Vulnerability

Being in the public eye is not an easy job and former pop star Jessica Simpson is living proof that such a career can really take a toll on you.Born to a Baptist minister, Jessica started her career using an “anti sex-appeal” image and wearing a purity ring, which put her in contrast to contemporary singers like Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera.Since her debut album wasn’t as successful as expected, Columbia Records decided to drastically change her image. For her new album, Jessica left her innocent songs and looks behind and adopted a more provocative image. However, none of the changes brought her the success she was after, but the singer was ready to try a different path – this time as a TV personality. It's okay to stick your foot in your mouth. Just laugh at yourself with everybody else.Jessica Simpson for Entertainment WeeklySuccess was eventually achieved, but at what cost? Below, we’ll cover the major life events and struggles that Jessica faced while reaching stardom and falling into the hands of addiction.Childhood abuseThe singer buried the trauma and anxiety she experienced in her early years. Only her family and friends knew exactly what she went through. However, in her memoir Open Book (released in February 2020), she opened up about her childhood sexual abuse.Jessica wrote that she was only six years old and the abuse began at a family friend’s house. She was sharing a bed with the family’s daughter who (apparently) was also abused by an “older guy”. The girl would do to Jessica the things her abuser did to her.She told her parents everything when she was 12, they never went back to that home and chose to never talk about it again. But not talking about it didn’t miraculously erase the trauma. Jessica admitted that, coupled with stress over her career, this too contributed to her alcohol abuse.Her struggle with body image Jessica Simpson became a sex symbol at a very young age, but in order to cultivate that image she had to make a lot of compromises.For many years she was the hot topic of tabloids who were fat-shaming her. As her weight fluctuated over the years, she was constantly criticized and told that she is not skinny enough.The criticism eventually got to her and made her feel insecure about everything. For nearly 20 years Jessica took diet pills that she later combined with alcohol.Jessica’s failed relationships did not helpJessica didn’t really make it as a professional singer, but achieved stardom as a television personality. Long before the Real Housewives and the Kardashians took over, Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey have dominated the nation’s airwaves with the reality TV show called Newlyweds. The show chronicled the young couple’s everyday adventures, but while everything looked glamorous on the small screen, things weren’t that peachy in real life.In her memoir, Jessica talks about how her husband used to spend nights on end with his friends while she remained home alone. The former pop star says that they were both too young and immature and doesn’t blame it all on Nick. On the other hand, she also admits that the failed marriage has seriously affected her at the time and contributed to her drinking problem.Yet, the end of her marriage did not mean that she was out of the woods. Her relationship with John Mayer would turn out to be another overbearing challenge that would push her to another edge. Mayer has had a tumultuous history with his romantic love interests, and Jessica was no exception. The on-off relationship escalated her alcohol abuse.She never felt good enough for him and she would agonize over the most insignificant stuff just to make sure she wouldn’t upset him again. Jessica said that she felt somehow terrorized by Mayer and drank to fight the anxiety.It was the start of me relying on alcohol to mask my nerves.Jessica SimpsonHitting rock bottom and battling addictionIn her 2020 memoir, Jessica reveals that she got to a point where she needed a drink every morning to combat shaking and anxiety. The former TV personality believes her addiction stems in part from trying to numb the pain caused by her childhood sexual abuse. But the pills and alcohol were masking her issues only temporarily. That’s when she decided that in order to really heal, she needed to quit drinking.Personally, to do this I needed to stop drinking alcohol because it kept my mind and heart circling in the same direction and quite honestly I was exhausted. I wanted to feel the pain so I could carry it like a badge of honor. I wanted to live as a leader does and break cycles to advance forward- never looking back with regret and remorse over any choice I have made and would make for the rest of my time here within this beautiful world.Jessica SimpsonIn 2017, after hosting a Halloween party at her house, Jessica realized she has hit rock bottom. She’s spent the whole night drinking and listening to her children’s trick-or-treat until she nearly passed out. The next day, she was so mad at herself that she hasn’t had a drink since.Giving up the alcohol was easy. I was mad at that bottle. At how it allowed me to stay complacent and numb.Jessica SimpsonWorking with her feelings however, was the hardest part. She had to feel the trauma that was anesthetized with vodka for so many years. It was painful, but she made it through.The vulnerable photo that marks 4 years of sobrietyTo celebrate her victory, on November 1st, 2021. Jessica posted a photo on social media taken four years prior – on the day she decided to get sober. She looks nothing like the star we got used seeing on TV or in glamorous magazines, but that was the whole point. She wanted everyone to see what mixing pills with alcohol can do to a person. A single photo was enough to capture the damage. Alongside the image of herself in a pink tracksuit, Jessica wrote:This person in the early morning of Nov 1, 2017 is an unrecognizable version of myself. I had so much self-discovery to unlock and explore. I knew in this very moment I would allow myself to take back my light, show victory over my internal battle of self-respect, and brave this world with piercing clarity.Jessica SimpsonAfter four years that have quickly flown by, Jessica had the courage to expose herself exactly as she was at that point in her life. No glam, no fancy clothes and no makeup to hide her struggle – just a “before moment” that marks the beginning of an amazing transformation.There is so much stigma around the word alcoholism or the label of an alcoholic. The real work that needed to be done in my life was to actually accept failure, pain, brokenness, and self-sabotage. The drinking wasn’t the issue. I was. I didn’t love myself. I didn’t respect my own power. Today I do. I have made nice with the fears and I have accepted the parts of my life that are just sad. I own my personal power with soulful courage. I am wildly honest and comfortably open. I am free.Jessica SimpsonShowing vulnerability is a sign of strength and courageAlthough many celebrities have fought addiction (or still do), not many had the courage to be so open about it. Jessica posted a vulnerable picture of what she used to be, but is not anymore. She has come a long way, she is happier, healthier and definitely an inspiration for anyone struggling with any type of addiction.Admitting your truth, no matter how ugly it is, is not a sign of weakness, but the only way to understand what pain you are running away from.Speak Your truthDaring to be vulnerable is tough, but it's always worth it.