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Great-Grandma Says She Doesn't "Feel Pretty Anymore" - One Woman Has the Best Response

Aging can be a tough process, especially when we no longer feel as vibrant, pretty or mobile as we used to. But aging is also a mindset, and one woman helped her great-grandmother see that one day with an epic shopping trip.

How Jamie Lee Curtis's Enduring Career Defied All Odds - And One Piece of Advice She Has for Women
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How Jamie Lee Curtis's Enduring Career Defied All Odds - And One Piece of Advice She Has for Women

What is Jamie Lee Curtis's secret?There is plenty of discourse in show business about how older women are routinely discarded, disrespected, and sidelined in favor of their younger or male counterparts. How often do you see older women headlining blockbuster franchises? How often do you see them being promoted on billboards and in magazines for their upcoming works? How often do you see them being fawned over by hordes of fans wherever they go?It’s true: the entertainment industry isn’t known for being a welcoming, hospitable place for women over forty. However, one woman has managed to break all the rules to fortify an illustrious career spanning nearly 45 years. RELATED: Jamie Lee Curtis Opens up About Big Regret With Plastic Surgery, and It’s an Important Lesson for EveryoneJamie Lee Curtis thrived and flourished when everyone expected her to throw in the towel and withdraw from the public consciousness. Whether it’s her enduring Halloween fame or family-friendly productions like Freaky Friday, Knives Out or pairing up with Arnold Schwarzenegger in True Lies, she knows how to drive masses of people to the audience on name alone. Considered by many a national treasure, Curtis recently opened up about her resilient career, what she’s done differently to keep going, and the advice she has for younger actresses hoping to follow in her footsteps. Jamie Lee Curtis On The Longevity Of Her Career And What She's LearnedIn a recent interview with Rolling Stone, the 63-year-old shed light on her journey, the challenges she’s faced along the way, and the achievements that haven’t come easy. In October 2018, Halloween became the biggest horror movie opening with a female lead over 55. This milestone doesn’t only showcase the appeal of the classic franchise but Jamie Lee Curtis’s undeniable staying power — she doesn’t let up under any circumstances. Like many of her peers from the 70s and 80s, Curtis could have easily retired to the countryside, only taking part in one-off appearances that require little talent or artistry. RELATED: Why Diane Keaton Never Married but Chose to Raise Two Children Alone at 50However, the actress continued to work tirelessly in a market that doesn’t always value older women. Additionally, she doesn’t sit back and play second fiddle to others; she makes a habit of leading, carrying and propelling ensemble casts, without necessarily hogging the spotlight herself. So why does she keep going?“Whatever moment of clarity happens for people when you realize you have zero time to waste — for me, it really hit at 60,” she answered. Then, she thought to herself: if now is not the time, then when? If not her, then who? Jamie Lee Curtis Understands Her PurposeCurtis understood that her purpose was to deliver authentic, transformative emotion through the medium of film. Unlike other professions, there isn’t a government-mandated age at which you must retire. You keep going as long as you can bring stories to life. “If I died without releasing all that creativity, that’s the real tragedy. It lit a fire under me,” she said. The Freaky Friday actress added that she’s never been more creative in her life: she is pitching movie and TV show ideas, she made a short Super 8 film, she’s consistently brainstorming new ways to improve her skill set. She’s even considering writing her memoir titled Die Alive based around this rallying cry that drives her to persevere every day: “I want to die very creative.”RELATED: The Way Arnold Schwarzenegger Responded to a Depressed Fan is a Powerful Lesson in EmpathyAs the daughter of acting legends Tony Curtis and Janet Leigh, young Curtis didn’t face the exact same pressures of making her mark. As a result, she could approach every project as a blank canvas, a fresh slate upon which she could project her whirlpool of emotions and interpretations. Now, this isn’t a novel technique but Curtis was one of the few who managed to master the process, establishing herself as a reliable asset studios could turn to whenever they needed a hit. “I don’t understand why I’ve been able to do this for such a long time. I don’t think I ever will,” the mother-of-two told the mag. She stated that it isn’t her job to figure out why, either. Her job is to create brilliant art that engages, challenges, or at the very least, delights audiences, and she’s not stopping anytime soon. Of course, not every piece of entertainment is going to hit home, as Curtis explained in the interview, but she’s still going to take a stab at it. “It’s my job to just do it. And I’ve been really lucky to do it in all sorts of areas — good things, bad things, commercial things, failures, high-profile things, zero-profile things,” she stated. Jamie Lee Curtis's Advice To Younger Generations: "Don't Read The Comments"When asked by the interview if she had any advice for younger actresses hoping to find longevity in the industry, Curtis remained diplomatic. “I don’t like to give advice, because to give advice is hostile,” she said. In her view, to impart advice is to make assumptions that your ideas are better than those of anyone else. It’s also not your business most of the time, either. Nevertheless, Curtis quoted the darkly comic novel by Marisha Pessl called Special Topics of Calamity Physics: “Life hinges on a couple seconds you never see coming. What you do in those seconds determines everything from then on, and you won’t know what you’re going to do until you’re there.”RELATED: Here Are Myths About Aging That You Shouldn’t Believe If You Want A Better LifeElaborating on how the extract related to her own experiences, she said that every single thing in her life, whether good or bad, has hinged upon a “couple of seconds [she] didn’t see coming.” So, if she were to offer a few words of wisdom to the younger generation, she would tell them to keep an eye on every opportunity. Never close the door to new experiences, and don’t be afraid of taking chances as a few seconds can change the course of your life. Learning to Seize Every MomentJamie Lee Curtis and Arnold Schwarzenegger (2022).Additionally, Curtis never had to grow up in the age of social media and all the scrutiny that comes with it; therefore, she wants younger actresses to not “read the comments” because people will only want to hurt them. They will want to pick them apart and laugh at them and judge them for each and every move. Being young is hard enough as it is; the addition of social media and anonymous squabbling only makes everything more challenging. “This portal of hatred and vile jealousy and trollers’ insecurities. And you’re not supposed to take that personally as a teenager?” she said.RELATED: Reese Witherspoon’s Best Advice Can Solve Your Worst Problem – But It Won’t Be EasyAt the end of the day, Jamie Lee Curtis has a tremendous head on her shoulders and an eager attitude to work that has a tendency to outlast anything that comes in its way. She is focused on expressing her creative abilities for as long as she can and is unfazed by the stigma of getting older and what that means for her trajectory. As she will tell you herself, it’s about seizing the moment for yourself and thinking on your feet. Sometimes your decisions won’t work out, but sometimes they will transform you from the inside out. At the very least, you can say that you tried and went for it. KEEP READING: Jamie Lee Curtis Bravely Reveals Decade-Long Struggle with Opioid Addiction, Shows That Even the Mega Successful Have Painful Secrets

Naomi Watts’ Response to Aging and “Not Being Attractive After 40” Is a Lesson in Holding One’s Ground
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Naomi Watts’ Response to Aging and “Not Being Attractive After 40” Is a Lesson in Holding One’s Ground

Naomi Watts is not letting naysayers steal her glory. The British actress has quietly established herself as one of the best dramatic actresses of her generation. Her work in 21 Grams and The Impossible garnered her widespread acclaim as well as two Oscar nominations, while her role in David Lynch’s Mulholland Drive endeared her to millions of film enthusiasts across the globe. Simply put: she’s a phenomenal performer, and, in ideal circumstances, she should be able to act for as long as she wants to. RELATED: The Truth Behind Victoria Beckham’s Plastic Surgery Will Change The Way You Think About HerUnfortunately, the business isn’t the kindest to women over forty. Everyone from Jennifer Lopez to Cameron Diaz has sounded the alarm about how the industry treats older women. They’re profitable only if they’re attractive, hired only if they can support their male counterparts, and marketed only if studios know they can sell a movie. Naomi Watts On The Rude Comment That Changed Her Perspective On AgingNaomi Watts is the latest actress to speak up about the stigma of getting older. As it turns out, there are quite a few challenges impeding her progression, but, at the same time, she’s not letting those obstacles get in her way. Though Watts is considered an esteemed talent today by audiences and peers alike, there is no doubt she had quite a strenuous start. RELATED: Here Are Myths About Aging That You Shouldn’t Believe If You Want A Better LifeOn the heels of Mulholland Drive, she had piqued the curiosity of every executive in town, forcing them to pay attention to her each and every move. Offers were flowing left, right, and center, and Watts felt flattered, albeit overwhelmed, by the opportunities placed at her feet. But before she could make choices that made the most sense for her, she was given a particularly crude piece of advice by an unnamed Hollywood figure. “I was told, ‘You better get a lot done because it’s all over at 40 when you become unf****able,’” she told Variety. The statement baffled Watts: she initially couldn’t understand what this person even meant. Then, she couldn’t believe someone had the gall to say something so disrespectful and inappropriate. But, with time, Watts realized that this wasn’t an unusual mindset in the entertainment arena. In fact, it was and is the status quo in many parts. “Then you think about it, and you go, ‘Oh, right. When you are no longer reproductive, when those organs are no longer functioning, you are not sexy, so, therefore, you are not hirable,’” she said. Watts breaking down the bias in such simple terms only underscores its nonsensical nature. Why do we conflate attractiveness and fertility? By modern standards, 40 is no longer ‘old’; however, we tend to deem age as a default indicator of beauty and ‘sexiness,’ even though these are two of the most abstract qualities in humanity, and no one has the right to decide who is or isn’t good-looking. What She Has To Say About The Changing TimesNaomi Watts hugging best friend Nicole Kidman.What’s interesting is that Watts was well into her thirties when she had her breakout moment — she was already bucking the trend regarding perceptions around sex appeal, age, and desirability. If she could sell movies in her thirties, is there a reason she couldn’t do it in her forties? Why should age play any kind of part in her capacity to earn a livelihood? Unfortunately, reality is far less straightforward, and the Hollywood bigwigs think with their wallets, not with any kind of empathy or common sense. Speaking on what the industry can do to accommodate women in their forties and fifties, the 54-year-old said, “It’s such an awkward conversation because, from day one, we begin our aging process.” She added that everyone ages, and it’s such an inevitable part of existence, but women are inserted into these conversations far more often than men. “It’s something we just all have to get comfortable with, and women are asked to do it more than men,” she said. RELATED: Sharon Stone’s Deadly Wake-Up Call Taught Her To Love AgingAt the end of the day, we need to identify and re-evaluate the double standards prevalent in our culture. We prize men for their years, as though their experience automatically equates to wisdom; therefore, they have more to bring to the table. But, with women, aging is apparently a sign of weakness and frailty - where they’re characterized as grumpy, old bats whose old contributions to society are the children they raise and the men they play second fiddle to. “We’ve got important and powerful experiences as well at this age that we should feel proud of,” said the King Kong star. “We don’t talk about a man aging hardly ever.”If we’re holding someone in high regard due to their age, what’s stopping us from including women in our rankings? Personally, Watts couldn’t be more ecstatic about getting older and going through more adventures. “Getting older is a privilege and a time for us to feel proud of our cumulative experiences,” she wrote on Instagram in June. Moreover, the mother-of-two sees herself as part of a “change-maker generation,” those who are paving the way for older women to feel empowered in their skin, regardless of what anyone says. “No more walking through this alone,” she said. For too long, older women have gone under the radar. They’ve done great work in their respective fields, produced splendid art, changed young minds, transformed the trajectory of the universe, and so much more. Yet, they’re still not given the same accolades as men. The good news is that things are evidently changing, and people are waking up to the prejudices that have reigned over our culture for a long time. Even in the entertainment space, more and more women over fifty are being hired in substantial roles, judged for their work rather than their looks, and being paid what they’re worth. The road to true equality is long and winding, but people like Naomi Watts will only accelerate the movement. “We’ve been under-served in media, stories, and marketing far too long,” she wrote. It’s time the world takes older women seriously and starts treating them like the forces of nature they are. What Naomi Watts Teaches Us About Embracing OurselvesOur age doesn’t define us. Of course, it does shape our point of view and our behavior, and how we relate to people surrounding us, but it’s not the be-all and end-all of our existence. RELATED: Halle Berry Reveals the Surprising Health Habit that Helps Her Slow Down AgingAs women, we’re taught to fear aging and in particular how our bodies might change and how we might appear to the male gaze, but women like Naomi Watts showcase what it’s like to age with dignity and still embrace your beauty and sense of self. As long as we can see ourselves with a measure of appreciation, no one else can bring us down. KEEP READING: Jamie Lee Curtis Opens up About Big Regret With Plastic Surgery, and It’s an Important Lesson for Everyone