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Teen Is Sent Home for Distracting Outfit - Outraged Mom Has the Best Response
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Teen Is Sent Home for Distracting Outfit - Outraged Mom Has the Best Response

*Featured image contains photo by Andrea PiacquadioIt's no secret that many school dress codes could use a boost into the 21st century. Outdated and archaic, they disproportionately target girls and feed into the notion that girls are responsible for the choices and behaviors of boys. They are not. Even when girls do cover up their bodies completely? They still can't seem to win. And one mom has had enough. The Phone CallWhen mom, Shasty Leah, picked up the phone, the last thing she expected to hear was that her daughter was being sent home for a dress code violation.After all, she wasn't wearing any of the standard pieces that normally get cited, like crop tops or mini-skirts. The offending outfit? A brown long-sleeved t-shirt with a crew neck paired with some Halara black jeggings with pocket details. In other words, the standard type of outfit worn by literally every tween and teenage girl everywhere. (And a lot of teachers too.)And while her daughter being sent home two hours before the end of the school day for wearing the unofficial uniform of teens was upsetting, it was the reason the school administration gave that really set her off. “Two hours before school gets out, she's being sent home for school violations because her outfit is distracting to the boys," Shasty said in a now-viral video on TikTok. "[It's] 2024 and we're still teaching the boys that girls are their sexual playtoys," she continued. “We're not teaching the boys: You don't have a right to put your hands on any girl. You don't have a right to call her anything outside her God-given name, and you don't have a right to think that she is your sexual object. We're not teaching the boys that. No."She was just warming up. In a fiery 4 minute and 7 second rant, Shasty didn't hold anything back. The Viral TikTok Video In her video that has been viewed more than 3.2 MILLION times, Shasty covers everything from the hypocrisy of girls' school cheerleading outfits and volleyball team uniforms — that are "practically under-f**king-wear" — to the responsibility of parents of boys to teach them not to sexualize women.“It's 2024. We've got to do better as a society.” Shasty Leah via TikTokAnd for anyone who thinks she doesn't understand boys and their adolescent experiences, she assures viewers that as a mother of FOUR boys, ages 15-29, she's more than qualified to have an opinion. “I have four boys ages 29 to 15. They were taught the same thing: Don't sexualize women,” she said.Reaction to the Viral VideoIn a follow-up video, Shasty reveals the outfit in question, giving viewers a glimpse of the "provocative" t-shirt and jeggings. Take a look:Turns out, Shasty isn't the only one appalled by the school's response. Her post quickly gained traction. More than 18,000 people weighed in, and they were overwhelmingly supportive.“There is NOTHING wrong with this outfit,” one commenter wrote.“I'm a teacher. I see nothing wrong with that outfit,” another said."We just had that discussion the other day. Can't wear a tank top, but cheerleader and volleyball uniforms are what they are..." someone else commented.Others shared their own experiences with school dress codes. "My school tried banning leggings. big mistake. BIG. all the boys showed up for 3 days wearing leggings. for 3 days. in protest," wrote one. Another said, "At my high school we were all “dress code checked” at the beginning of each day. Only the girls." (And there lies in the problem.)"It’s never about the clothes, it’s about the girl’s body type. I’m pretty skinny so I never get dress coded, but my friend who is a bit curvier gets dress coded left and right," one person shared.It's a valid point. The Problem With Unfair Dress CodesThe grim reality is that dress code shaming and policing, specifically in regards to young girls’ bodies, is still very much alive and well.Schools are still sending the message that girls should be reprimanded and punished for having bodies, even when those bodies are actually completely covered up. But the message this school sent isn't just detrimental to the girls, it is to the boys as well. Adolescent boys are more than capable of respecting their female peers and exercising control over their thoughts and behavior. The narrative needs to change. If schools are going to continue using dress codes, they need to update them to ensure that they are equitable and fair, for everyone. More from Goalcast:Student Is Told to “Put Pants On” After Wearing Her Cheerleading Uniform to School – Outraged Mom Fights BackLowe’s Employee Is Fired After She Tries to Stop 3 Shoplifters – Outraged Strangers Have the Best ResponseBrave Employee Is Fired After He Stands Up to the Thieves Who Stole From His Store – Outraged Strangers Have the Best Response

Mom Has Controversial Response After Mean Girls Bullied Her Daughter Over $10 Water Bottle From Walmart
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Mom Has Controversial Response After Mean Girls Bullied Her Daughter Over $10 Water Bottle From Walmart

When Dayna Motycka's daughter faced bullying over a $10 Walmart water bottle instead of the pricier $45 Stanley, Dayna shared her frustration on TikTok. The video sparked a heated debate about societal values and parenting. Despite Dayna acknowledging her privilege, the question lingers: Is fitting in by buying the expensive bottle the right solution?Her Daughter Was Bullied for Shopping at WalmartFor Christmas, all the other girls in her class had gotten brand label "Stanley Quencher" water bottles. The trendy mug is all the rage and retails for upwards of $45. When Dayna's daughter returned home from school after the winter break, she was devastated to learn her little girl had been bullied for buying her bottle at a discount store.This Ohio mom wasted no time. She took to TikTok to share with her followers the "short and sweet" lesson she learned — and audiences were divided.In the video Dayna holds up the $10 Walmart tumbler in question:"This is the cup we got our daughter for Christmas. This isn't the Stanley. This is a $9.98 Walmart Cup that she said she thought was cute."Even though there isn't a noticeable difference in quality — especially for a young girl — it didn't stop the kids from calling her daughter a "fake."“And they made sure to let her know that this is not a real Stanley, that this is fake, and it’s not as cool.”Dayna MotyckaThe Shocking Part? Her Daughter Is Only 9 Years Old!At such a young age, these kids are already tuned into putting others down for displaying signs of being in a "lower" class. But Dayna doesn't necessarily blame the kids for not knowing any better — it's the parents she has a reminder for.The mother believes this sort of bullying starts at home with the parents. “This doesn’t start with the kids. This starts with us, with parents, with moms. What are we teaching our kids?” Her message was clear: What are we teaching our children about the importance of labels?It’s About Time to Break the CycleDayna's simple story grabbed the attention of TikTokers everywhere. Her video quickly received nearly 4 million views and over 18,000 comments. “You’d better believe that if our nine-year-old daughter came home and, somehow, we found out that she had made fun of another girl at school for not having something name-brand… we would be calling the family," Dayna shared. "We would be making her write a note to apologize, we would make her apologize in person because that’s not what we do in this household.”One commentator was quick to draw the parallels between past and present...and her sentiment hit home for many:"The girls who made fun of others in the 2000s for not having Uggs/Abercrombie are the moms of the girls making fun of others for not having Stanleys."@_stephanie_v_Her “Quick Fix” Only Made Matters WorseDayna ended the video with admitting that even though she knew better, she ultimately decided to get her daughter the Stanley mug so she could fit in with the other girls. Her response drew a mix of some positive praise and some raised eyebrows from users who were unclear as to what her message was.Is It Fair for Her to Say One Thing — Then Do Another?In her video, Dayna is quick to acknowledge her privilege. She discloses to her viewers that yes, she has a one Stanley Tumbler for herself and that yes, she can afford to buy her daughter the pricey water bottle as well — but that's not the point.On one hand its important that Dayna is contributing to the conversation and grabbing headlines with her wise words on the subject matter.But on the other hand, it's important to remember that there are plenty of parents who aren't in Dayna's position and wouldn't be able to afford buying the $45 bottle. So what is the solution for them?It Starts With you…so You Decide!While is totally relatable that Dayna caved to the pressure and got her daughter the trendy water bottle to "stop the bleeding" (so to speak), making the immediate problem go away is just a temporary solution — and in some cases can even make matters worse.The long con is helping her daughter build up her confidence and sense of self, so in the future, those kinds of comments won't get her down. But the hope for tomorrow doesn't have to be the reality for today!Every day we face new situations and there's rarely one right or wrong answer. The fact of the matter is, we don't need to die on every hill. For some of us, that can be a really hard lesson to learn. Ultimately, it's OK for Dayna to share her frustrations with her daughter's experience of bullying and then still try and put an end to that bullying by helping her fit in. There's times to fit in and times to stand out.For this mom, she weighed the pros and cons and cut her losses. Despite certain convictions we may have...we should always work to judge others less. Take the good, leave the bad, and just try to do the next right thing.And if that's not enough, there's always this Reddit mom, who's fighting the system!More from Goalcast:

68 Mom Quotes That Will Make You Want To Call Your Mom and Tell Her You Love Her
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68 Mom Quotes That Will Make You Want To Call Your Mom and Tell Her You Love Her

In this collection of 69 heartfelt mother quotes, we explore the diverse, touching, and even downright funny aspects of motherhood. Mothers hold a unique place in our hearts, often embodying an irreplaceable source of love, wisdom, and support. Their influence shapes our lives in countless ways, from the early days of childhood to the journeys of adulthood. These quotes, shared by writers, poets, celebrities, and everyday folks, remind us of the special bond we share with our moms and the profound impact of their love has on our lives.Warning: as you read through these quotes, you'll find yourself you may just find yourself missing your own mom and feeling the urge to reach out and share your appreciation for the amazing woman who has played such a significant role in your life! For those whose mothers are no longer with them, may these quotes can serve as a beautiful tribute and a source of solace, celebrating the enduring spirit of maternal love. Empowering Quotes About Motherhood (19)"Motherhood: All love begins and ends there." Robert Browning"A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take." Cardinal Mermillod"A mother is your first friend, your best friend, your forever friend."Unknown"The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new." Rajneesh"To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power. Or the climbing, falling colors of a rainbow."Maya Angelou"Mothers hold their children's hands for a short while, but their hearts forever."Unknown"A mother is the one who fills your heart in the first place."Amy Tan"A mother's love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible."Marion C. Garretty"A mother's love is patient and forgiving when all others are forsaking, it never fails or falters, even though the heart is breaking."Helen Rice"A mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired; it need not be deserved."Erich Fromm"The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness."Honore de Balzac"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."Agatha Christie"Motherhood is about raising and celebrating the child you have, not the child you thought you would have."Joan Ryan“Motherhood has relaxed me in many ways. You learn to deal with crisis. I’ve become a juggler, I suppose. It’s all a big circus, and nobody who knows me believes I can manage, but sometimes I do.”Jane Seymour“(24/7) once you sign on to be a mother, that’s the only shift they offer.”Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper“Motherhood is hard enough without judgement from others who don’t know the whole story.”Sarah Addison Allen“You don’t take a class; you’re thrown into motherhood and learn from experience.”Jennie Finch“Chosen motherhood is the real liberation. The choice to have a child makes the whole experience of motherhood different, and the choice to be generative in other ways can at last be made, and is being made by many women now, without guilt.”Betty Friedan, "The Feminine Mystique""A mother's arms are made of tenderness, and her children sleep soundly in them." Victor HugoFunny Quotes on Motherhood(27)Photo by Andrea Piacquadio /Pexels"Does this baby make me look fat?"Amy Schumer"You can tell what was the best year of your mother's life because they seem to freeze that clothing style and ride it out."Jerry Seinfeld"Raising kids may be a thankless job with ridiculous hours, but at least the pay sucks."Jim Gaffigan"If your kids are giving you a headache, follow the directions on the aspirin bottle, especially the part that says, 'keep away from children'.Susan Savannah“Honey, I’m your mother. It’s my job to strong-arm people into seeing how amazing you are.”Beverly Goldberg, The Goldbergs"Setting a good example for your children takes all the fun out of middle age."William Feather"“The most remarkable thing about my mother is that for thirty years she served the family nothing but leftovers. The original meal has never been found.”Calvin Trillin"Motherhood: feeding them as a baby and then through most of their twenties." Unknown"I want my children to have all the things I couldn’t afford. Then I want to move in with them.”Phyllis Diller"A suburban mother's role is to deliver children; obstetrically once and by car forever after." Peter De Vries"Silence is golden. Unless you have kids. Then silence is just suspicious." Unknown"Behind every great kid is a mom who's pretty sure she's screwing it all up."Unknown"You know you're a mom when you understand why mama bear's porridge was cold."Unknown"I don't want to sleep like a baby, I want to sleep like my husband" Unknown"My two-year-old referred to her coat pockets as "snack holes," and this is what I shall forever call them" Rebecca Caprara"I told my mom she was invading my personal space, and she said, 'You came out of my personal space.'Unknown"I was a really good mom before I had kids." Trisha Nobile"Parenthood: Where you can never find the scissors but your kids always know where you hide the chocolateUnknown"If a woman speaks and no one is listening, her name is probably 'Mom!'"Unknown"My mother's menu consisted of two choices: Take it or leave it." Buddy Hackett"I used to have functioning brain cells, but I traded them in for children." - Unknown"The quickest way for a parent to get a child's attention is to sit down and look comfortable."Lane OlinghouseWhen your kids are teenagers, it's important to have a dog so that someone in the house is happy to see you."Nora Ephron"I might look like I'm listening to you, but in my head, I'm thinking about what to cook for dinner."Unknown"I asked Mom if I was a gifted child. She said they certainly wouldn't have paid for me."Calvin and Hobbes"If at first you don't succeed, try doing it the way your mom told you to do it from the start."Unknown"Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing up is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing."Phyllis Diller"When your 'mom voice' is so loud, even the neighbours brushed their teeth and get dressed" Unknown"They say to test out baby names, say them over and over again. Bull. What they should really suggest is to be called Mom over and over again and see if you still choose that."UnknownCelebrity Quotes About Motherhood (23)"Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials."Meryl Streep"A mother's arms are more comforting than anyone else's."Princess Diana"It's not easy being a mom. If it were easy, fathers would do it."Betty White“'You have suffered enough.' That became my mantra for motherhood from there on out. You have suffered enough. If you can make it easier, make it easier, and don’t feel guilty about it.”Ali Wong"Wine is necessary."Kelly Clarkson"Motherhood is basically finding activities for children in three-hour pockets of time for the rest of your life"Mindy Kaling"Every day when you're raising kids, you feel like you could cry or crack up and just scream 'This is ridiculous!' because there's so much nonsense, whether it's what they're saying to you or the fact that there's avocado or poop on every surface"Kristen Bell"Sleep at this point is just a concept, something I'm looking forward to investigating in the future"Amy Poehlr"It’s the best acting of my life right here, the well-rested woman. It’s my finest role"Kerry Washington"You know how once you have kids you never ever pee by yourself again? At least one of them is always in there with you at all times."Jennifer Garner"I always say if you aren't yelling at your kids, you're not spending enough time with them."Reese Witherspoon"No one told me I would be coming home in diapers, too."Chrissy Teigen"Ah, babies. They're more than just adorable little creatures on whom you can blame your farts."Tina Fey"Usually the triumph of my day is, you know, everybody making it to the potty."Julia Roberts"Stop saying 'we're pregnant.' You're not pregnant. Do you have to squeeze a watermelon-sized person out of your lady hole? No."Mila Kunis"I don't think so mommy!" is what my child said after, "Can you please pick up the popcorn you threw all over?"Anna Faris"'I've leaned that it's way harder to be a baby. For instance, I haven't thrown up since the '90s and she's thrown up twice since we started this interview."Eva Mendes"Twelve years later the memories of those nights, of that sleep deprivation, still make me rock back and forth a little bit. You want to torture someone? Hand them an adorable baby they love who doesn't sleep."Shonda Rhimes"The majority of my diet is made up of foods that my kid didn't finish." Carrie Underwood"Becoming a mom to me means you have accepted that for 16 years of your life, you will have a sticky purse." Nia Vardalos"Parenting is f---ing hard!" Adele" I can be covered in spit up on a conference call while I'm pumping and that's okay, because this is my perfect. It may not be somebody else's, but this is mine."Kerry Washington"Like all parents, my husband and I just do the best we can, and hold our breath, and hope we've set aside enough money to pay for our kids' therapy." Michelle Pfieffer"I'm one of five kids. My husband is one of four, so we're officially breeders."Blake Lively

Woman Going Through a Tough Time Scolds Loud Teens at Movie Theatre - Then, Their Mother Tracks Her Down
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Woman Going Through a Tough Time Scolds Loud Teens at Movie Theatre - Then, Their Mother Tracks Her Down

They say it takes a village to raise children. But sometimes, that village can be made up of unexpected allies. That’s the lesson one mother learned when she found out that her kids had been misbehaving at the movies and completely ruined the experience for one family going through a rough time.A Night Out Turned SourA few years ago in Birmingham, Alabama, a mom named Rebecca Boyd was having a rough week. Her husband had just been laid off, and she knew finances were going to be tight for a while. So, she decided to treat her 12-year-old daughter, Ashley, to a movie. It was going to be the last treat for a while, and she wanted to enjoy some time with her kid.Unfortunately, when they settled in their seats, things took a sour twist. Two teenage girls sat behind them, giggling, talking loudly, and even kicking their seats.“At one point, I turned around and told them that we paid for the movie just like they did,” Boyd told Yahoo Parenting. “They just giggled at me and continued with the same behavior.”Needless to say, the night out at the movies wasn’t exactly what Boyd had wanted for her daughter during their last outing for a while, and she was extremely disappointed.Confronting the GirlsAfter the movie wrapped, Boyd sent her daughter to the car and decided to do something about the situation. She confronted the teens and told them just how much their behavior had affected her and her daughter.“I told them they needed to realize that their behavior affects others and they never know what other people around them are going through,” she recalled. “For instance, my husband was just laid off from his job, and this would be the last movie I could take my daughter to for a while, and they had ruined that.”With that, Boyd met her daughter, and the pair went home to go about their lives.Tracking Down a StrangerBoyd may have accepted the situation for what it was, but someone else was furious about it: the girls’ mom, Kyesha Smith Wood. The girls had been at the movies with their brother, and he promptly told his mother what had transpired when they returned home.Wood was angry at her daughters and wanted to do something to help make up for their behavior. So she went on Facebook and shared a post asking for help in finding Boyd. “If you are this woman, please message me,” she wrote. “I can assure you that these girls are being strongly dealt with and appropriately punished. This rude, disrespectful, and awful behavior is unacceptable, and they owe you an apology,” she continued.“My husband and I are having them write your apology letter tonight, and we would like to pay for your next movie and snacks out of their allowance. Please message me if this is you. I apologize profusely for their disrespect.”A Chance to Make Things RightThe post began circulating on social media, and before long, Boyd saw it. She reached out, and the two moms connected.“I was very touched that Kyesha was not offended that I approached her girls,” Boyd said. “Her kind letter brought tears to my eyes.”As for Wood, she was grateful that somebody stood up to her daughters and reprimanded their actions when no one else would.“I thanked her for correcting my girls in my absence and letting them know that they were wrong,” Wood added to AL.com. “A lot of times, people get nervous about saying something to a stranger’s kids. But it takes a village to raise our kids. We as a community need to hear this, that there are parents out there who still believe in old-fashioned methods.”It Really Does Take a VillagePart of the reason this story resonated with so many people may be because it’s a valuable example of parents helping other parents out. Boyd could have blamed the teens' parents for their actions or chosen not to forgive. And Wood could have taken Boyd’s words the wrong way and confronted her for it.Instead, both women showed up for each other as mothers who are just trying their best to raise decent humans. It’s a nice reminder that, no matter what your parenting style, we’re all in this together. Supporting one another is key to making it all work and to helping parents everywhere feel less alone in their journeys.More from Goalcast:Manager Approaches Mom After Customers Complain About Her Child – He Pays for Their Meal After She Asks Him This QuestionBullies Call Mom A “Whale” In Front Of Everyone – Her Reaction Takes Them By SurpriseRude Man Asks Mom to “Shut Her Baby Up” – She Can’t Believe When His Own Dad Teaches Him a Lesson in Public