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How Did Betrayal Connect Jennifer Aniston and Selena Gomez?
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How Did Betrayal Connect Jennifer Aniston and Selena Gomez?

Selena Gomez's initial encounter with Jennifer Aniston led to a surprising reaction — she fled. However, little did Selena realize that Jennifer would later become a guiding light during her darkest times, imparting a crucial lesson on self-love.

Katherine Heigl Reveals The Real Reason Why She Has A Bad Reputation
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Katherine Heigl Reveals The Real Reason Why She Has A Bad Reputation

Actress Katherine Heigl says she was bullied in her industry for speaking up. But after experiencing crushing anxiety, she sought help and has never felt more comfortable in her own skin.Labeled a 'difficult' womanIn 2008, actress Katherine Heigl, who'd grown from a child actor into a starring role on "Grey's Anatomy," started to feel attacked.It began when she complained that the 2007 Judd Apatow film "Knocked Up" was "a little sexist," and it escalated when she turned down her Emmy nomination because she “did not feel that I was given the material this season to warrant [it].” Then, in 2009, she complained to David Letterman about working 17-hour days on "Grey's Anatomy."Heigl says she was painted as a "difficult" woman in the film industry. “I may have said a couple of things you didn’t like, but then that escalated to ‘she’s ungrateful,’ then that escalated to ‘she’s difficult,’ and that escalated to ‘she’s unprofessional,’” she told The Washington Post. “What is your definition of difficult? Somebody with an opinion that you don’t like? Now, I’m 42, and that s--- pisses me off.”Katherine Heigl She was blamed for speaking upHeigl said she was "told to shut the f--- up," and despite her repeated apologies, the industry wanted her to say sorry even more. “The more terrified and scared I was of doing something wrong, the more I came across like I had really done something horribly wrong.” Katherine Heigl Still, Heigl was getting hired for films and felt that if she was doing good work she'd prove her haters wrong.“You can be the most awful, difficult, horrible person on the planet, but if you're making them money, they're going to keep hiring you,” she said of the film industry. “I knew that whatever they felt I had done that was so awful, they would overlook it if I made them money — but then my films started to make not quite as much money.”Mounting anxietyDuring what Heigl calls the "shunning," Heigl started to feel extremely anxious.“I think my family, my mother, my husband, my friends were scared. And I regret deeply that I scared them like that. But I just couldn't control it. I had no tools,” she said, adding that mental health issues were rarely discussed in her family.In 2016, Heigl had another burst of anxiety and she finally sought the help of a therapist.“I asked my mom and my husband to find me somewhere to go that could help me because I felt like I would rather be dead,” she said. “I didn't realize how much anxiety I was living with until I got so bad that I had to really seek help. You can do a lot of inner soul work, but I'm a big fan of Zoloft.” Would Heigl be treated this way today?Looking back on it, would Heigl face the same kind of attacks for speaking up as today? In a post-#MeToo world, it's hard to imagine she would.“If she said [some of it] today, she’d be a hero,” said her husband of 13 years, singer Josh Kelley, to The Post.“She has very strong convictions and strong opinions on certain things, and she doesn’t back down from letting you know if she feels like she’s been wronged in any way,” added friend and actor James Marsden. “I’ve always seen that as just strength of character. I can see how that can get construed as being difficult or ungrateful or whatever. But if you know Katie, it’s simply because she has the courage to stand behind something she believes.”She's tamed her anxietyHeigl hasn't let the "shunning" ordeal keep her quiet. She's back to doing what she loves with a new Netflix series, "Firefly Lane," was outspoken about the killing of George Floyd, and has formed a community with her fans by responding to their comments on social media.“It took me a long time to feel confident enough to read their comments because I just assumed the worst,” she said. “Now, it feels like a little community. I've tried to rebuild that trust with my fans through social media, show them more of who I am off camera.”She's also stopped feeling afraid to speak up to her producers.“I spent a lot of years just being the actor hired,” Heigl said. “I feel now I have enough experience and enough wisdom to have a voice, to collaborate about character, about story, about cast. It's about having a seat at the table.”Coping during the pandemicDuring the pandemic, Heigl has been coping by spending time with her family in Utah, watercolor painting, and watching Netflix's "Bridgerton." Overall, she's feeling much more balanced.“I think she has found the person that she truly is, and she’s found her way to be that person with the world,” her husband said. “She just seems more at ease with family, career, and life itself, and I’m really super proud of her for that.” Heigl agrees: “I’ve grown into accepting that ambition is not a dirty word, and that it doesn’t make me less of a feminine, loving, nurturing woman to be ambitious and have big dreams and big goals. It’s easier to be happy because I have a little more gentleness for myself.”A redemption storyDespite being pushed down by her industry, Heigl kept moving forward. She continued to do what she loves and even after going through crippling anxiety she ultimately refused to stop being herself.Her passion and drive to continue speaking up is truly inspiring and proves how impossible it is to keep a strong woman down.More uplifting stories:Why We Need To Talk About Keanu Reeves’ Girlfriend Alexandra GrantWhat Finally Convinced Jennifer Lopez That She Needed A Divorce From Marc AnthonyWhy Shakira and Gerard Piqué Are Proud To Be An Unconventional CoupleHow Hailey Baldwin Dealt With Being In A Love Triangle Involving Selena Gomez

50 Quotes from Charlie Chaplin on Life, Love and Laughter
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50 Quotes from Charlie Chaplin on Life, Love and Laughter

Born on April 16th, 1889, Charlie Chaplin was a British comedian and actor who is nowadays considered the greatest comic artist of the screen.Chaplin becoming one of the world’s biggest superstars is a true rags-to-riches story. His father was a notorious drinker who left his family that was already struggling financially. His mother was a singer that would later suffer severe mental illness. However, before losing her voice and being committed to an asylum, Lily Harley introduced her son to the spotlight.The young boy replaced his mother on stage at only five years old. Chaplin was determined to make it big in the show business, so between jobs, he called all of his mother’s contacts to get any small role.He made his first acting debut when he was about twelve, but it was after moving to the United States that he became hugely popular by playing his tramp character.Charlie Chaplin will forever be remembered for making people laugh without saying a word. He will remain an iconic silent-film legend whose legacy will live on forever.Here are 50 Charlie Chaplin Quotes on Life, Love, Laughter and Pain:Charlie Chaplin quotes about lifeLife is a tragedy when seen in close-up, but a comedy in long-shot.Life can be wonderful if you’re not afraid of it. All it takes is courage, imagination… and a little dough.Life is a beautiful magnificent thing, even to a jellyfish.You'll never find a rainbow if you're looking downNothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even our troubles.Life could be wonderful if people would leave you alone.We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know ‘That is life’!A man's true character comes out when he's drunk.Failure is unimportant. It takes courage to make a fool of yourself.I suppose that’s one of the ironies of life doing the wrong thing at the right moment.What do you want a meaning for? Life is a desire, not a meaning.Words are cheap. The biggest thing you can say is ‘elephant’.That’s the trouble with the world. We all despise ourselves.The way of life can be free and beautiful. But we have lost the way.Think about yourself at least once in your life otherwise you may miss the best comedy in this world.Imagination means nothing without doing.To help a friend in need is easy, but to give him your time is not always opportune.Despair is a narcotic. It lulls the mind into indifference.The saddest thing I can imagine is to get used to luxury.I do not need drugs to be a genius, do not take a genius to be human, but I need your smile to be happy.Charlie Chaplin quotes about lovePerfect love is the most beautiful of all frustrations because it is more than one can express.Only the unloved hate; the unloved and the unnatural.Love is life on a higher plain of existence, working through man to unite the forces of nature into a perfect whole. It is the merging force binding every element in existence into a perfect whole.You need Power, only when you want to do something harmful otherwise Love is enough to get everything done.Your naked body should only belong to those who fall in love with your naked soul.A tramp, a gentleman, a poet, a dreamer, a lonely fellow, always hopeful of romance and adventure.We think too much and feel too little.Charlie Chaplin quotes about painI always like walking in the rain, so no one can see me crying.The mirror is my best friend because when I cry it never laughs.My pain may be the reason for somebody’s laugh. But my laugh must never be the reason for somebody’s pain.Smile, though your heart is aching. Smile, even though it's breaking.To truly laugh, you must be able to take your pain, and play with it!Charlie Chaplin quotes on laughterA day without laughter is a day wasted.I believe in the power of laughter and tears as an antidote to hatred and terror.You’ll find that life is still worthwhile, if you just smile.Anyone can make them cry, but it takes a genius to make them laugh.Laughter is the tonic, the relief, the surcease for pain.All I need to make a comedy is a park, a policeman and a pretty girl.I have many problems in my life. But my lips don’t know that. They always smile.In the end, everything is a gag.Life is a play that does not allow testing. So, sing, cry, dance, laugh and live intensely, before the curtain closes and the piece ends with no applause.Charlie Chaplin quotes on self loveAs I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is ‘authenticity’.As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it 'RESPECT'.As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it 'MATURITY'.As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it 'SELF-CONFIDENCE'.As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it 'SIMPLICITY'.As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is 'LOVE OF ONESELF'.As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is 'MODESTY'.As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it 'FULFILLMENT'.As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection 'WISDOM OF THE HEART'.