When we talk about attraction
between two people we often refer to physical factors, everything that might
look pleasing to the eye. But being attractive is about more than just
appearance.
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
PLATO
Aside from the biological perspective that says we’re more likely to choose partners based on features that show they are healthy and able to reproduce (Weeden and Sabini, 2005), we’re constantly influenced by our culture and the beauty standards presented by the media.
No wonder we often tend to be shallow and create the perfect partner in our minds solely based on physical characteristics.
It’s easy to be bewitched by beauty, but have you ever looked at someone who was ridiculously gorgeous and felt zero attraction towards them?
That’s because being attractive also implies other factors that we may consciously perceive or not -- that “je ne sais quoi” that makes someone absolutely irresistible even if they’re not the perfect candidate for a Miss/Mister Universe contest.
So let’s see what makes you more attractive despite or aside from the raw facts of your appearance.
1. You’re happy and you know it
Happiness and enthusiasm can be seen and felt at a first glance, and people are drawn to that. We love the ones who spread their enthusiasm and good mood because it fills us up with excitement as well.
I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls.
AUDREY HEPBURN
Remember that “move” that women sometimes make when their crush walks by, the one where they laugh out loud to draw their attention? No matter how silly it may seem, it usually works (if and when the laughter is genuine).
A smile does wonders for your overall appearance and for the people around you. So if you’re the type of person who always has a smile on their face, you’re probably more attractive than you realize.
2. You’re confident
People judge us the
moment we walk into a room and our brain decides if we are attracted to someone
in a matter of seconds.
The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.
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When you stand up straight and look like you know where you’re going, people are going to notice and admire you. It’s all about having an open body language -- certain gestures (an open torso, relaxed hand gestures, etc.) can make you look more interesting and intriguing, thus, more attractive.
Your level of
confidence in who you are is something that people find simply irresistible.
3. You have a good sense of humor
When two people are
laughing at the same joke it means that they share the same perspective. It’s
easier for people to like you if you can make them laugh since you’re clearly more
engaging and able to make them feel more comfortable around you.
It appears that having a sense of humor can instantly make you more attractive, especially if you are a guy. The life of the party always gets its share of attention, so if you’re a joy bringer, keep up the good work!
Just make sure that
your jokes are tasteful. While funny to some, dark humor can often be perceived
as unpleasant.
4. You’re a kind person
Some personality traits are reflected in our facial expressions and kindness is one of them. Our eyes are windows to our souls, and sometimes we can simply see kindness in someone’s eyes.
Elegance is when the inside is as beautiful as the outside.
COCO CHANEL
Of course, we cannot always say that someone is kind just by looking at their face -- this is more of a gut feeling rather than a scientific fact. However, being a good person can definitely make people perceive you as more attractive.
So as it turns out, the real turn on is not just a beautiful face or a well-polished body, but what we emotionally crave from another person -- those qualities that reflect beauty from the inside out.
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Military Dad Defends His 4 Little Daughters When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Military Dad of 4 Daughters Defends His Girls When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Austin von Letkemann is the military officer strangers feel "sorry" for — and the reason is infuriating.
Whenever the devoted father leaves the house with his four children, strangers can't help but notice the officer in uniform is holding hands with 4 adorable little girls. They will tell the traditionally "masculine" and "all American" dad they feel sorry for him, because he has no sons. This dad makes one thing very clear: They are his daughters, they aren't a burden.
In a passionate video, von Letkemann took to Instagram to share with his followers that the only thing that's "difficult" about being a girl dad — is clapping back to these sexist remarks over and over again.
They Mock His Daughters To Their Face
When strangers approach Austin von Letkemann and his four daughters, they don't always realize that their comments are being overheard. They seem oblivious to the fact that his girls understand every word. Von Letkemann describes how people will approach him and, without thinking, make remarks like "I'm sorry" or even joke about his lack of sons. What they don't realize is that these comments, intended to be light-hearted or humorous, can be deeply hurtful to his daughters. These strangers are not just disrespecting von Letkemann's choices as a father; they're also sending a message to his daughters that their presence is something to be pitied. It’s a message that von Letkemann won't stand for, and he's speaking out to defend his girls from these insensitive remarksSaying "Get Your Shotgun" Isn't Funny — It's Sexist
Another common comment that Austin von Letkemann encounters is the old "better get your shotgun ready" trope, often delivered with a smirk or a wink. This line is typically intended to suggest that a father with daughters should be on high alert to protect them from potential "suitors," implying that they are objects to be guarded rather than individuals with agency.
Von Letkemann finds this line of thinking outdated and sexist. In his viral Instagram video, he points out that these jokes are not just stale — they're damaging.
By suggesting that his daughters require armed protection, the joke reinforces the idea that women are inherently vulnerable and need to be shielded from men. Von Letkemann argues that instead of promoting this narrative, society should focus on teaching respect and consent, challenging these sexist tropes at their source.
Watch Austin von Letkemann's Video:
"If I Had A Fifth Child, I'd HOPE It Was A Girl" — One Dad's Message For Other Parents
Despite the constant remarks about his lack of sons, Austin von Letkemann is clear: He wouldn't trade his daughters for anything.
In fact, he told his Instagram followers that if he were to have a fifth child, he would hope for another girl. This declaration isn't just about doubling down on his pride in his family — it's a pointed response to those who see fathering daughters as a misfortune.
Von Letkemann's stance is a powerful one, rejecting the notion that a family is incomplete without sons. He encourages others to question the assumptions behind these comments and to appreciate the joy and fulfillment that his daughters bring. By sharing his story, von Letkemann hopes to create a more inclusive perspective on fatherhood, one that values daughters just as much as sons.