Terry Crews | I Wanted to Save My Mother
Terry Crews - Speak Up
Growing up, Terry Crews did everything he could to protect his mother from his abusive father. He delivers a tearful speech on how to overcome trauma, love yourself and own your story.
Transcript:
My earliest memory is my father hitting my mother in the face, as hard as he could. And, I remember seeing her on the floor, and then looking at him. This giant of a man, who I thought, "My god, he says he loves her. What is he gonna do to me?"
And, all I could think, how I want to protect her. How I want to protect her, and how wrong it was. And, I said, "I gotta be strong, and I gotta get strength so that I can protect her." And, every time he came home, we were scared. We didn't know. I, literally, wet the bed until I was 14 years old, because I didn't know what was gonna happen. I would wake up to glass breaking, sounds, people screaming, and it was a nightmare. We lived a nightmare for years.
And, I remember my mother, coming into our room, and saying, "We're leaving. Pack our stuff, we're outta here." And, we would grab everything we had, put it in garbage bags, and we'd tie it up, and we'd wait to go.
And, then, she'd come back in, and she'd say, "We can't go. We can't leave. Where am I gonna go?" And, I just remember feeling like, "Let's go anywhere. I don't care. We could be up the street." But, she couldn't do it. And, he went on, terrorizing us. Terrorizing us, forever.
And, it was like, what could we do? You have to understand that people in this situation feel entirely hopeless. Hopeless. We were hopeless. So many days I thought, "I'll never be like that. I'll never do that." But, then I picked up a lot of other damaging things that come from that trauma. A lot of other things that had been assimilated into my life. Here I am, as a man, I felt like, "Hey, it's my way or the highway." I remember times with my daughter, Adrielle, when I would yell at her as if she was a 30-year-old man.
I constantly apologized, constantly called them and say, "I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Daddy didn't get it. Daddy missed it." And, that woke me up. It woke me up. It was a catalyst, it changed my life forever. 'Cause here I was, a very successful man. Very successful. But, what you have to realize is that success is the warmest place to hide. It does not matter what you look like. It doesn't matter. Anyone, anywhere can be victimized, and no man, woman, or child should ever put up with being treated as less than a human being, ever. How did we get that far off, when people are looking the other way? When the whole thing is geared where you can't ask for help, or you are gonna lose your job?
Or, if you bring it up, how in the world are you gonna afford an attorney in order to fight this case? You need three things in order to come forward with a lot of your damage, and the things that's happened to you. You need distance emotionally, you need distance financially, and you need distance physically. Coming out with your story is probably one of the hardest things ever, and this is one thing I love about what Saving Horizon provides, it's a safe-haven, it's a place to go for services if you need. And, I'm telling you, this is my product.
This is more valuable ... I'm promoting movies and TV shows, the whole thing, but I want to talk about this. I want to talk about this, because it's fixable. See? Understand, this is something, that we can be deprogrammed. This is the deal. We have to speak up. You can see it, but you have to show people you are changing through work.
Military Dad Defends His 4 Little Daughters When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Military Dad of 4 Daughters Defends His Girls When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Austin von Letkemann is the military officer strangers feel "sorry" for — and the reason is infuriating.
Whenever the devoted father leaves the house with his four children, strangers can't help but notice the officer in uniform is holding hands with 4 adorable little girls. They will tell the traditionally "masculine" and "all American" dad they feel sorry for him, because he has no sons. This dad makes one thing very clear: They are his daughters, they aren't a burden.
In a passionate video, von Letkemann took to Instagram to share with his followers that the only thing that's "difficult" about being a girl dad — is clapping back to these sexist remarks over and over again.
They Mock His Daughters To Their Face
When strangers approach Austin von Letkemann and his four daughters, they don't always realize that their comments are being overheard. They seem oblivious to the fact that his girls understand every word. Von Letkemann describes how people will approach him and, without thinking, make remarks like "I'm sorry" or even joke about his lack of sons. What they don't realize is that these comments, intended to be light-hearted or humorous, can be deeply hurtful to his daughters. These strangers are not just disrespecting von Letkemann's choices as a father; they're also sending a message to his daughters that their presence is something to be pitied. It’s a message that von Letkemann won't stand for, and he's speaking out to defend his girls from these insensitive remarksSaying "Get Your Shotgun" Isn't Funny — It's Sexist
Another common comment that Austin von Letkemann encounters is the old "better get your shotgun ready" trope, often delivered with a smirk or a wink. This line is typically intended to suggest that a father with daughters should be on high alert to protect them from potential "suitors," implying that they are objects to be guarded rather than individuals with agency.
Von Letkemann finds this line of thinking outdated and sexist. In his viral Instagram video, he points out that these jokes are not just stale — they're damaging.
By suggesting that his daughters require armed protection, the joke reinforces the idea that women are inherently vulnerable and need to be shielded from men. Von Letkemann argues that instead of promoting this narrative, society should focus on teaching respect and consent, challenging these sexist tropes at their source.
Watch Austin von Letkemann's Video:
"If I Had A Fifth Child, I'd HOPE It Was A Girl" — One Dad's Message For Other Parents
Despite the constant remarks about his lack of sons, Austin von Letkemann is clear: He wouldn't trade his daughters for anything.
In fact, he told his Instagram followers that if he were to have a fifth child, he would hope for another girl. This declaration isn't just about doubling down on his pride in his family — it's a pointed response to those who see fathering daughters as a misfortune.
Von Letkemann's stance is a powerful one, rejecting the notion that a family is incomplete without sons. He encourages others to question the assumptions behind these comments and to appreciate the joy and fulfillment that his daughters bring. By sharing his story, von Letkemann hopes to create a more inclusive perspective on fatherhood, one that values daughters just as much as sons.