Emotional intelligence is a life skill that we can initiate and enrich.
If we break it down, it embodies self awareness, the ability to harness emotion toward creative solutions and life goals, and to positively manage our broad spectrum of emotion. It also enables us to have compassion and humility for the people that we share and connect with on all levels. We conceal a gift that we are able to enhance and cement within us with due focus, sentiment and passion.
When we are ruled by our mind, we oppose our innate spiritual structure as empathetic and compassionate souls. We lose sight of our emotional depth when we drown it out with too much mental stringency.
Our intellect thrives on rationality and logic, whereas our emotional acumen expands through a perceptive and intuitive space. Emotional intelligence forms the backbone to our mental strength and moves us further toward self mastery- we need the balance of both.
If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.
– Daniel Goleman
Emotionally smart people strive to understand themselves and others better. They are more inclined to have successful relationships and potentially climb higher up the ladder toward their aspirations. For example, someone that does not deal with anger or seemingly negative emotions well will always be adversely swayed by them, creating tension and further unrest. Yet when the same person has an enlightened comprehension of that anger and where it stems from, the whole story changes. The tenacity and pertinence of that anger can be driven toward a healthier and more desirable outcome for everyone involved.
When we evaluate and act upon our feelings with equanimity we inspire bigger shifts toward self improvement. We expand our outlook and connect to our inherent wisdom; in turn, this upgrades our interpersonal relationships and more fleeting interactions. We should not be slaves to our emotions.
Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.
– Gretchen Rubin
Darker emotions are navigators toward something intrinsic we need to reflect upon and shape to a more positive expression. There are no negative emotions when we think of it in this way.
Through understanding what we feel (and why) we can discern what is real within and break down our emotional defenses. Governing intense feelings allows us to liberate ourselves from their detriment and exalt them for inner fuel and our visionary direction.
Rather than fearfully deny or constrict our emotions, we can absorb and refine them. In doing so, we channel them toward being more loving and magnanimous- toward ourselves and others. Our untamed emotions can get us into trouble and be the cause of many deep frustrations, however, when we take charge of regulating them we can masterfully steer them. Our journey to strengthen our emotional subtlety always begins within, yet its effects echo to all around us.
Emotions and Problem Solving
It’s so important to realize that every time you get upset, it drains your emotional energy. Losing your cool makes you tired. Getting angry a lot messes with your health.
– Joyce Meyer
Our emotional force is our soft center, tough resolve, and everything in between. How we draw upon and conduct that energy is of utmost importance. Our emotional insight underpins our natural resources for transformation, problem solving, and persevering toward our dreams and aspirations.
When we demonstrate this energy it empowers us to speak our truth, encourages others to speak theirs, and we respond to inevitable challenges with confidence and resiliency.
Emotional intelligence crowns us with great directive skills because it dissolves the surface look of a situation to uncover what lies beneath. It intuitively removes the layers of misunderstanding and confusion with clarity, much like looking upon emotions with clean lines rather than shady sketches. The crux of it is being able to understand others better through a superlative awareness of our own triggers, faults, and expression. When we maximize our emotional efficacy we consequently help others- we are all part of a stellar heartbeat.
The Power of our Heart
The Spiritual Heart is in a way a little like a smart phone, invisibly connecting us to a large network of information. It is through an unseen energy that the heart emits that humans are profoundly connected to all living things. The energy of the heart literally links us to each other. Every person’s heart contributes to a collective field environment.
– Heart Math Institute
Our emotional ties facilitate our evolution. The more toxic bindings we have to people can illuminate something that we need to change within ourselves, and the more joyful relationships catapult us beyond empyrean skies to reach for more and be the best that we can be. We unite through the power of our heart and emotions will always reflect outwardly. We are all a mirror to one another.
When we source the courage to look inside our own hearts we begin to condition ourselves to the might of truth and the golden touch of our intuition. We do not lay blame at anyone else’s door for how we feel, how we react, or respond. We reinforce our autonomy through a superior effort of responsibility, empowerment, and emotional consciousness.
Emotional Smarts are a Skill
Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.
– Brian Tracy
When we proficiently align all aspects of our human nature we can surge into stronger emotive links to amplify our awareness, subtle wisdom, and emotional receptivity. Emotional intelligence is enhanced by seizing our power through the inner gems of our spiritual heart.