If They’re Acting Like They’re Not Interested, Avoid Making These 3 Mistakes
Feelings get in the way of our thinking when we crush on someone. When they don't reciprocate our interest, it hurts but don't make these mistakes.
When someone you like appears like they’re not interested in you, it really sucks. And it can leave you asking yourself, “Is there something wrong with me?” The answer is, absolutely not.
There is nothing wrong with you. And actually, the more you can go through life facing what appears to be a rejection, the stronger, more resilient, and more self-assured you become. And like every little setback in life, it becomes an amazing opportunity for growth and self-reflection.
So, let’s say someone’s either blown you off, taken longer than you’d prefer to get back to you, or sounded offish or disinterested when they last spoke to you. Or maybe you’ve felt a special connection with someone you can’t get off your mind only to be told they don’t like you back. What do you do? How do you react?
First, I want to point out, if someone is rude or impolite to you, then it’s probably best to steer clear! But if they are simply coming across like they are not interested in you in the early stages of getting to you, it doesn’t mean they are a bad person.
Don’t take it personally
Remember,if someone isn’t interested in you, it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. It’s more of a reflection of where they are at. Maybe they aren’t looking for a relationship right now and have other priorities that come first. Maybe the timing is off or they need a bit more space.
If your crush “doesn’t see you in that way”, do not let this deter you from believing how amazing, unique, and wonderfully individual you are. It is totally normal to feel upset that your crush doesn’t see the greatness in you, but I cannot stress this enough: never, ever, EVER change who you are to be the type of person you think they may be into! Always be yourself! And the right person will like you back.
Remember that you too have not liked back every person that had a crush on you either. You can put yourself in their shoes and know how it feels. We’re all entitled to our feelings whatever the outcome is, so try and let them off the hook.
Don’t try harder
It can be easy to hold on tighter to someone that is pulling away but try and resist the urge to contact them once you feel their disinterest. It will only cause them to become even more distant.
Use your energy instead to process how you feel. Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, and work through your feelings of disappointment. Instead of sitting there staring at your phone waiting for them to get back to you, go out with friends, take nice walks, meet more people, and do things you love.
Avoid passive aggressiveness
The very worst thing you can do is to aggressively or passively-aggressively react to their disinterest in you. Reacting in an angry, sarcastic way shows that they have power over you and your emotions, and I'm sorry to say, this is not a good look.
The very best thing you can do is to accept that they are where they are without judgment and use this as an opportunity to practice your highest principles of communication. Present the best version of yourself - the confidant, sexy, resilient, self-assured you!
Remember, if they aren’t into you now, it doesn’t mean they won’t be later on. When you react in a way that you are proud of, the person you are interested in is much more likely to get back in touch when they are ready to date. Because self-confidence is very attractive. But who knows, when they are ready, maybe you could have moved on.
Rejection is redirection
Communicating your best self even when it feels uncomfortable is mastery level, guys! Of course, it’s hard not to react when someone you like doesn’t like you back, so be easy on yourself if you have let anger and hurt get the better of you. But know that you can always make amends if you do feel you have acted out of line.
It also helps to understand that this person may actually be a blessing in disguise. Call it divine intervention if you will! This person who is seemingly rejecting you, is, in fact, guiding you to someone else way more perfect for you! So keep up those positive vibes, love yourself first, and the next person who comes along, will love you back too.
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Military Dad Defends His 4 Little Daughters When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Military Dad of 4 Daughters Defends His Girls When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Austin von Letkemann is the military officer strangers feel "sorry" for — and the reason is infuriating.
Whenever the devoted father leaves the house with his four children, strangers can't help but notice the officer in uniform is holding hands with 4 adorable little girls. They will tell the traditionally "masculine" and "all American" dad they feel sorry for him, because he has no sons. This dad makes one thing very clear: They are his daughters, they aren't a burden.
In a passionate video, von Letkemann took to Instagram to share with his followers that the only thing that's "difficult" about being a girl dad — is clapping back to these sexist remarks over and over again.
They Mock His Daughters To Their Face
When strangers approach Austin von Letkemann and his four daughters, they don't always realize that their comments are being overheard. They seem oblivious to the fact that his girls understand every word. Von Letkemann describes how people will approach him and, without thinking, make remarks like "I'm sorry" or even joke about his lack of sons. What they don't realize is that these comments, intended to be light-hearted or humorous, can be deeply hurtful to his daughters. These strangers are not just disrespecting von Letkemann's choices as a father; they're also sending a message to his daughters that their presence is something to be pitied. It’s a message that von Letkemann won't stand for, and he's speaking out to defend his girls from these insensitive remarksSaying "Get Your Shotgun" Isn't Funny — It's Sexist
Another common comment that Austin von Letkemann encounters is the old "better get your shotgun ready" trope, often delivered with a smirk or a wink. This line is typically intended to suggest that a father with daughters should be on high alert to protect them from potential "suitors," implying that they are objects to be guarded rather than individuals with agency.
Von Letkemann finds this line of thinking outdated and sexist. In his viral Instagram video, he points out that these jokes are not just stale — they're damaging.
By suggesting that his daughters require armed protection, the joke reinforces the idea that women are inherently vulnerable and need to be shielded from men. Von Letkemann argues that instead of promoting this narrative, society should focus on teaching respect and consent, challenging these sexist tropes at their source.
Watch Austin von Letkemann's Video:
"If I Had A Fifth Child, I'd HOPE It Was A Girl" — One Dad's Message For Other Parents
Despite the constant remarks about his lack of sons, Austin von Letkemann is clear: He wouldn't trade his daughters for anything.
In fact, he told his Instagram followers that if he were to have a fifth child, he would hope for another girl. This declaration isn't just about doubling down on his pride in his family — it's a pointed response to those who see fathering daughters as a misfortune.
Von Letkemann's stance is a powerful one, rejecting the notion that a family is incomplete without sons. He encourages others to question the assumptions behind these comments and to appreciate the joy and fulfillment that his daughters bring. By sharing his story, von Letkemann hopes to create a more inclusive perspective on fatherhood, one that values daughters just as much as sons.