Close Ad

Single Dad John Finds Purpose Through Adoption
Parenting

Single Man Finds New Lease On Life By Adopting Neglected Six-Year-Old

Sometimes our best-laid plans are not meant to be. John had been in a long-term relationship. He had even bought a house with his partner for 15 years.

When the relationship suddenly ended, he found himself starting over at 40.


John did his best to maintain life as he was accustomed, from his job at an insurance company to spending time with loved ones, but still, he couldn’t help feeling like something was missing.

The missing piece of the puzzle

Six years later, he realized what that something was when watching TV and seeing a program about adopting children.

It sparked his interest. John reflected on the fact he had always wanted to be a dad. But when it didn’t happen naturally, he just continued on with his single lifestyle.

But then he realized the time was now.

"I'm 46 now. If I want to be a dad it's now or never."

But, as a single father, it wouldn’t be an easy journey. It was one he was ready to get started on though.

A long and arduous process

He started an intensive training course in preparation for being an adoptive father, and decided to get some experience as a volunteer mentor for a teenager.

"Every fortnight or three weeks I had a meeting with my social worker who went through lots of scenarios with me: 'What would you do if this happened? What would you do if that happened?'," John recalled.

And that included his whole extended family getting involved. "He met my ex-partner and my other family members to find out more about me and see if it was a solid environment I could provide."

Finally, after a three-year process, John was approved to be an adoptive father. He was then able to start looking for his future child.

He met with his social worker, who laid out photos of boys on the table and asked if any sparked interest.

"Immediately one stood out to me -- he is now my son."

Finding his son

John says the feeling was instant, almost like “when you're looking for a house and you walk into a house, and you get the feeling that this is the house you want.”

"It's not a great comparison but that's the nearest I can get to it," he said.

The photo was of a six-year-old boy named Chris (names have been changed), who had been in foster care for 18 months because of concerns he was not taken care of in his

"Ten days later he had moved in with me. And that was it," John said.

While it was a bit of an adjustment to go from only caring for himself to being responsible for another person, it was a process well worth it.

But there were some growing pains, like on the second night, when Chris said he wasn’t happy and wanted to go back.

"My heart sank, I was like 'what do I do, what do I do?'"

He called the social worker, but by the next morning, the social worker said it was a normal reaction, and that things would be fine.

They were.

A new lease on life

Nine years later, Chris is now a teenager and he and John have a wonderful relationship.

John is happy because he’s finally a dad, and Chris has a better life with more opportunity than he would have had staying in the foster care system.

"It's given me a purpose really, I suppose,” said John, who said as a dad, he just wants his ’son to “be the best he can be,” and that means raising him to be a good person.

"He'd probably say I'm a good dad, apart from banning him from his Xbox and making him do his school work!” said John.

Sometimes all the hardships and hurdles we have in life are worth it -- to get us to that right person and right moment in time.

For John and Chris, the timing was perfect for them to find each other and change each other's life forever.

More uplifting news:

Hot Stories

Snoop Dogg Wouldn't Choose Sides, Tupac Called Him Out
Snoop Dogg The Family You Choose
content.jwplatform.com

Snoop Dogg is an icon of positivity and peace, but that wasn't always the case. After the "Drop It Like It's Hot" gangster rapper faced felony charges and 3-year prison sentence he decided to make a change. Slowly but surely, Snoop Dogg traded in the "guns, drugs, and thugs" lifestyle for cannabis and a lucrative business partnership with Martha Stewart. But decades later it seems his past is coming back to haunt him. In a shocking interview, Jada Pinkett-Smith confronts Snoop about Tupac’s tragic death. She asks the questions no one dared ask: Why did Snoop and Tupac have a falling out? Did Snoop betray Tupac to save himself?

Celebrities
Black and white yearbook photo and a newly married couple dancing

Teen Makes Bet in Yearbook That He'll Marry His Girlfriend

Instagram/ @oliviaderocherphoto and Instagram/ @worldwidewessels

When it comes to high school senior yearbook quotes most people try to come up with something really memorable.

After all, this is your final chance to leave a lasting impression, forever memorialized in the pages of your school's annual publication.

But for high school senior, Cade Wessel, he didn't just want to stop short at merely memorable, oh no, he wanted his quote to go down in the annals of yearbook history as "legendary."

So, he decided to make a bet on his future. And six years later? He won.

Keep ReadingShow less
Uplifting News
89-year-old crossing guard and an elderly crossing guard hugging a little kid.

School Honors Elderly Crossing Guard With Retirement Party

GMA and WPVI-TV

Most of us remember the fixtures at our schools growing up. Sometimes it’s a teacher. Other times, it’s a janitor or cook. And in the case of this elementary school in Abington, Pennsylvania, it’s an 89-year-old crossing guard.

Keep ReadingShow less
Uplifting News