Stop Making Excuses: Your Destiny Is Waiting for You!
I believe everyone came into this world with a particular destiny: a distinct blueprint, a uniqueness that asks to be lived and that is already present in potential in one’s life -- like an acorn that holds the pattern for an oak tree only. Socrates and Goethe referred to this as their "daimon," a kind of inner spirit or voice that compelled them to fulfill their destiny. Albert Einstein also spoke of an inner voice that shaped his speculations.
You can see it at play in the lives of the world's accomplished people – the successful entrepreneurs, scientists, artists and others of this world – who have actualized their soul’s calling and fulfilled their personal myth, guided by this inner force.
Yet not all acorns grow into the magnificent oak trees they might have become. If we all have dreams, why is it that so few of us manage to turn them into a reality?
Here are the excuses I made to silence my soul’s own calling... as well as the insights I gained from researching the lives of those who actualized their potential.
Stop Making Excuses: Your Destiny Is Waiting for You!
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.– Steve Jobs (more quotes)
"I have no particular talent."
If I had any particular talent, we would have known about it by now.
Does this sound familiar?
I fell prey to a common trap, which is to believe that blueprints manifest out of the blue -- without the 10,000 hours of practice and hard work involved in any journey of self-discovery and self-mastery.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Jacques Brel once said in a famous interview that he is convinced of one thing: “talent does not exist.” To him, talent is simply “having a burning desire to make one’s dream come true.” The rest is “all sweating, discipline and hard work.”
Think about it: Steve Jobs was fired from the company he started; J. K. Rowling was jobless and poor as a single parent. Others were clearly disadvantaged at the outset by physical standards: Michael Jordan was famously cut from his varsity team in high school; Muhammad Ali was thought to lack the physique of a great fighter. Other such stories abound.
But they had a dream, and a burning desire to make it real, so they put in tons of effort to achieve it.
"I'm trying hard but nothing's working."
After years of disarray, I started to ponder the daunting question: are you trying hard at the right thing? Do you think Michael Jordan could have been a great scientist, or Einstein a great basketball player?
Many people live their lives with their ladder leaning against the wrong wall, so every step they take brings them further in the wrong direction. As brilliantly said by Einstein: “Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid.”
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Here’s a clue: when you are aligned with your soul’s calling, working hard does not drain you -- it energizes you. This is precisely why you can outwork your competitors. You feel like a fish in water.
"I need to master everything before I can get started."
I’ve been working very hard at leveling up my weaknesses over the years. It was painful enough, but I thought I could not start anything valuable beforehand.
Here’s what I’ve discovered: successful people focus on developing their strengths and natural capabilities, NOT their weaknesses.
You can’t be great at everything. The efforts and time you put in on your strengths will be much more rewarding in time -- both in terms of personal satisfaction during the process, as well as in terms of return on investment.
This is confirmed by research that shows successful people share one thing in common: self-awareness. They know themselves well, and use this knowledge to choosethe environments and situations that are most conducive to their success.
READ: Know Thyself: Why Self-Awareness Is the Starting Point for Your Goals
If they are not good at one particular skill, they will partner with someone who is, or will compensate with one of their strong points whenever possible.
"I don’t know what makes me tick."
Though I readily acknowledge that I need to exercise physically to stay in shape, I long believed that my inner world – or inner muscles so to speak – should be left untouched. I mistook it for who I was.
Your soul’s voice is a whisper – the sound of which has long been subdued by the world’s noises, as well as your own conditioning, which is the result of how you internalized other people's opinions over time. When you live life from the outside in, you let the world's voices (whether internalized or not) dictate the way you feel and act. You loose touch with your inner wisdom.
But you are not your conditioning. Unless you work on separating the wheat from the chaff, you will be living by other people’s standards, thinking they are yours!
READ: How to Follow Your Heart and Live Your Personal Legend
We all want to stand out in our own uniqueness, but then our desire to “fit in” might just make us hide.
You have to re-connect to your soul’s music: it is truly a powerful guide. It takes courage to let it play. But once you do, it will give you an unstoppable drive towards self-actualization through the blossoming of your unique seed.
"I don’t want to risk losing what I have"
Following one’s inner voice implies taking risks – sacrificing short-term comfort, status, wealth, etc. for something that is uncertain per se. It seems easier to conform and settle for the comfort of our current lives, even if they make us feel emptier and emptier inside.
But where there is no risk, there is no reward.
You get to choose.
You can be the hero of your own journey. You have a personal myth that’s asking to be lived.
Will you settle and die with your dream inside? Or will you choose the road less traveled?
What is it in your heart that you know you must be, do and have? And most importantly, why?
Military Dad Defends His 4 Little Daughters When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Military Dad of 4 Daughters Defends His Girls When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Austin von Letkemann is the military officer strangers feel "sorry" for — and the reason is infuriating.
Whenever the devoted father leaves the house with his four children, strangers can't help but notice the officer in uniform is holding hands with 4 adorable little girls. They will tell the traditionally "masculine" and "all American" dad they feel sorry for him, because he has no sons. This dad makes one thing very clear: They are his daughters, they aren't a burden.
In a passionate video, von Letkemann took to Instagram to share with his followers that the only thing that's "difficult" about being a girl dad — is clapping back to these sexist remarks over and over again.
They Mock His Daughters To Their Face
When strangers approach Austin von Letkemann and his four daughters, they don't always realize that their comments are being overheard. They seem oblivious to the fact that his girls understand every word. Von Letkemann describes how people will approach him and, without thinking, make remarks like "I'm sorry" or even joke about his lack of sons. What they don't realize is that these comments, intended to be light-hearted or humorous, can be deeply hurtful to his daughters. These strangers are not just disrespecting von Letkemann's choices as a father; they're also sending a message to his daughters that their presence is something to be pitied. It’s a message that von Letkemann won't stand for, and he's speaking out to defend his girls from these insensitive remarksSaying "Get Your Shotgun" Isn't Funny — It's Sexist
Another common comment that Austin von Letkemann encounters is the old "better get your shotgun ready" trope, often delivered with a smirk or a wink. This line is typically intended to suggest that a father with daughters should be on high alert to protect them from potential "suitors," implying that they are objects to be guarded rather than individuals with agency.
Von Letkemann finds this line of thinking outdated and sexist. In his viral Instagram video, he points out that these jokes are not just stale — they're damaging.
By suggesting that his daughters require armed protection, the joke reinforces the idea that women are inherently vulnerable and need to be shielded from men. Von Letkemann argues that instead of promoting this narrative, society should focus on teaching respect and consent, challenging these sexist tropes at their source.
Watch Austin von Letkemann's Video:
"If I Had A Fifth Child, I'd HOPE It Was A Girl" — One Dad's Message For Other Parents
Despite the constant remarks about his lack of sons, Austin von Letkemann is clear: He wouldn't trade his daughters for anything.
In fact, he told his Instagram followers that if he were to have a fifth child, he would hope for another girl. This declaration isn't just about doubling down on his pride in his family — it's a pointed response to those who see fathering daughters as a misfortune.
Von Letkemann's stance is a powerful one, rejecting the notion that a family is incomplete without sons. He encourages others to question the assumptions behind these comments and to appreciate the joy and fulfillment that his daughters bring. By sharing his story, von Letkemann hopes to create a more inclusive perspective on fatherhood, one that values daughters just as much as sons.