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Selena Gomez's initial encounter with Jennifer Aniston led to a surprising reaction — she fled. However, little did Selena realize that Jennifer would later become a guiding light during her darkest times, imparting a crucial lesson on self-love.
Relationship failures aren’t unique phenomena by any means, but the set of circumstances under which celebrities pursue romances is nothing short of extraordinary. Every action is noted, every move scrutinized; you can’t even get away with liking someone’s post nowadays without sending the tabloids into a frenzy. No interview is complete until you’re asked about your previous partner, how the breakup came to be, how hurt you are, what kind of role they occupy in your life - the list goes on and on. An average person doesn’t have to spend years dissecting their prior romantic involvements, but when you’re in the public eye, you will be asked to dig into those memories over and over again, oftentimes for the sake of content, promotion, or profit. Just look at Selena Gomez: the former Disney star is one of the most successful singers, actresses, and entrepreneurs of our time, and yet questions pertaining to Justin Bieber and The Weeknd keep circling around her like it’s the only thing she’s known for. Thankfully, she takes the pressure in stride and is keen on transforming her troubles into opportunities for growth, wisdom, and self-discovery. Here’s what we can learn from her efforts to forge her path forward:She thinks her relationship history is “cursed” In an interview with Vogue Australia, Selena opens up about the trials and tribulations of falling in love when you’re young and in the spotlight. The 29-year-old said she’s always felt “less than” her boyfriends, and that those connections, as passionate as they may have seemed at the time, lacked equality and emotional maturity. She doesn’t elaborate on how this inequality manifested, but she does detail the severe toll it took on her self-esteem. Selena Gomez And Justin BieberI think most of my experiences in relationships have been cursed. I’ve been way too young to be exposed to certain things when I was in relationships [...] felt so less than in past relationships, and never really felt equal. Selena Gomez in Vogue AustraliaIt’s no secret Justin Bieber was and continues to be one of the most tremendous forces in the music industry. As a teen idol, however, he brought about an unprecedented level of chaos everywhere he went, with hordes of young girls screaming and going berserk over his each and every quirk. He became the subject of many an inappropriate fantasy, and therefore, Selena, Bieber’s longtime girlfriend, started becoming portrayed as a villain in the saga, someone who must be slandered and defeated to bring the illusion into fruition. This doesn’t just apply to Justin Bieber — her other ex-boyfriends, The Weeknd, Nick Jonas, Niall Horan, command similar craze in their respective circles, and their ascendancy into heartthrob status and sex symbolism bore serious consequences for Selena’s image as well as her internal frame of mind.Of course, this doesn’t necessarily constitute the reason why Selena felt less “equal,” but it might explain why it’s been an uphill battle to learn how to value herself and appreciate her individuality. The Only Murders In The Building actress says she was also far too young and naive to experience the hardship of scrutiny and audience obsession, which only becomes worse when you’re trying to date the most beloved pop star in the universe. It’s no surprise why she believes her relationships have been “cursed.”But she's happy with herself and is "growing in the right direction"There is no denying Selena Gomez has been put through the wringer in these entanglements. In previous interviews, she confirmed that she’d been a victim of emotional “abuse” and that it took immense reflection and self-care on her part to clamber her way out of the shame. It’s widely believed Justin Bieber is the perpetrator, though Selena steadfastly refuses to name him; at the same time, the Texas native does say that the same bond had been “beautiful,” but it was time to move on nonetheless. As for The Weeknd, she and the Canadian singer are amicable as ever post-breakup and support each other in all their professional ventures. The singer admits it’s been essential for her to focus on mental and physical health to feel confident, loved, and “rare.” She’s latched onto the last word not just as a branding slogan but as a way to empower herself when she’s at her most vulnerable and distressed. That’s why she’s centering her music, business, and advocacy around the concept of “rare” and everything it embodies. Selena Gomez and The Weeknd It’s only gotten better, and that’s kind of what people say, you know, when you get older, you feel a bit more confident with who you are. I don’t know if that’s gonna be every year for me. Maybe it is. But I just feel like I’m constantly growing in the right direction.Selena Gomez to Vogue AustraliaAs she nears her thirties, Selena is enormously proud of the milestones she’s achieved in both the personal and professional realms. “I’m just really happy with who I am,” she told Vogue. She recognizes her growth but is also self-aware about her tumultuous history with men. Knowing fulfillment and self-love aren’t a straight line, she’s persistent in undertaking new adventures and continuing building gratitude and self-sufficiency. She doesn’t know she’ll be able to preserve this renewed sense of positivity, but as long as she is “growing in the right direction,” as she puts it, she’ll pull through. As for dating, Selena isn’t actively pursuing a boyfriend at the moment, but she hasn’t shut down shop either. She has a list of criteria that must be met before she jumps into the ordeal and risks another public humiliation. Moreover, now that she has the patience and wisdom that comes with maturity and experience, she’s not settling for anything she deems a bad fit. “I think you know when you get older. You find people that are actually right for you, that are actually on the same wavelength,” she said. Never forget to admire your growth Life is such a quick, maddening journey that many people don’t know how to even recognize or process their growth. You’re growing in so many ways, every single day, every single minute, whether or not it’s come to your attention. Even when you deny it, you’re growing and evolving and maturing and becoming the best version of yourself. If Selena Gomez can make the transition from the exploited, insecure starlet to a self-assured, thriving businesswoman, it’s possible for you as well. But you can’t hope to find joy or success in life unless you take a moment to acknowledge how far you’ve come along and what you’ve been able to do up until this point. There might be a long road ahead, but life’s nothing if you can’t press pause for a second and admire your development. More inspiring stories:Selena Gomez Shares How She Deals With Toxic Lies As She Battles Personal StrugglesHow Hailey Baldwin Dealt With Being In A Love Triangle Involving Selena GomezHow Selena Gomez Purged All Toxicity From Her Life To Become Her Better SelfSelena Gomez Opens Up About the Dangers (and Value) of Social Media
It’s common to feel like you are all alone and no one understands what you're going through, especially if you battle mental health issues. But when someone in the public eye – a celebrity, actress and singer -- shares her own struggles, it not only makes those suffering feel less alone, but it also helps break the stigma around those issues. Selena Gomez is aware of this truth and has been honest about her own mental health ups and downs for years, sharing her triumphs with her audience, but also her low points. data-player-id="UfIaNYrJ" layout="responsive" width="16" height="9">Pledging to donate $100 million "I've been a champion for mental health for numerous years,” Gomez recently told People, saying she has always been very open about her experiences and sharing them. “I wanted people of all ages to understand that the mind isn't simple."Selena GomezWhat's most refreshing is that Gomez considers herself a work in progress. The reality is, we all are. We’re all always changing and evolving into different versions of ourselves. And 2020, with a global pandemic, has led to a lot of people struggling in ways they maybe hadn’t before.Gomez has committed to help raise $100 million in the next 10 years to fund mental health resources to underserved communities, because she said it’s imperative for those who struggle with mental health to understand they are not alone."I'm a work in progress,” said Gomez, sharing there’s a lot she’s still figuring out. "It's okay to be frustrated or have a hard day."Selena Gomez's biggest challenge in 2020What's her biggest challenge these days? She says she's working on “getting rid of the lies outside of my mind" and instead trying to focus on the things she feels are most important, such as her friends and family."I'm at the point where I'm starting to care less about what others think and more about what I feel"Selena Gomez That started with not reading as many comments on social media or avoiding googling herself. "I find my life to be easier that way.”Detaching self-worth from outside factors Paying more attention to what we feel and need, and not what other people are saying about us, is an important lesson for us all -- whether we're in the public eye or not. It can be so tempting to attach our sense of self-worth to outside factors like our success or appearance. But Gomez's insights and approach is an important reminder that if we do start giving meaning to the way others perceive us, we can easily get caught in a toxic spiral. Taking a step back is not about not caring, it's about taking care of yourself first and doing what you need to keep yourself in a positive mental state. More uplifting stories:Why We Need To Talk About Keanu Reeves’ Girlfriend Alexandra GrantWhat Finally Convinced Jennifer Lopez That She Needed A Divorce From Marc AnthonyWhy Shakira and Gerard Piqué Are Proud To Be An Unconventional CoupleHow Hailey Baldwin Dealt With Being In A Love Triangle Involving Selena Gomez
Social media is useful in so many ways, from staying connected to quickly obtaining information, but according to public figures like actress and singer Selena Gomez, it also has many inherent dangers. Gomez was at the Cannes Film Festival to promote her new film The Dead Don't Die, and she turned to the topic of all the turmoil in the world. Among the biggest issues, to her? Social media. “For my generation specifically, social media has been terrible," she was quoted.Social media is useful in many ways, like for connecting with loved ones far away or staying informed of world events, but there’s also a lot of dangerous aspects. "It's a useful platform but it does scare me when you see young boys and girls not really aware of the news going on," she added. "It's dangerous for sure."As one of the most followed people on social media, Gomez knows what she’s talking about, and she tries to use social media in a social and informative, but useful and safe way."I'm very grateful I have the platform in any way, I can still share things I'm passionate about," she said. "I don't take a lot of pointless pictures. I like to be intentional with it."Gomez felt the responsibility to speak up for her fanbase, many of whom are teenage girls experiencing cyberbullying and social pressure online: "I see these young girls, devastated with bullying and not being able to have my voice."Her advice to those on social media: "It can be great in moments, but I would careful and give yourself time limits in terms of when you can use it and not."Gomez has had her own experiences with cyberbullying in the past, and even had to step away from posting personally on her Instagram account due to the cruel comments she would see. "It's like they want to cut to your soul. Imagine all the insecurities that you already feel about yourself and having someone write a paragraph pointing out every little thing—even if it's just physical," Gomez confessed.On the other side of the coin, Gomez took advantage of her social media following to raise awareness for lupus and the importance of organ donation when she shared her own transplant surgery. In a September 2017 Instagram post, Gomez thanked her best friend, fellow actress Francia Raisa, for donating her own kidney when both of Gomez' failed.Like any means of connecting with others, social media has its ups and downs. The sense of responsibility Gomez shows toward her young audience online is one we can all learn from. Our actions and words have an impact on others -- whether on social media or in real life. It's up to us to make sure that impact is positive rather than negative.
As a digital nomad and journalist, I travel the world while logging around 70 articles a month. To effectively manage a country-hopping lifestyle while also building my bylines and clients, I turn to the advice of seasoned movers-and-shakers who have developed habits and strategies for success. Each week, I’ll highlight the daily routine of influential professionals, making for the right kind of fodder while you down your coffee.A Disney channel star, a mega-successful musician, a producer and often regarded as one of the most influential voices of this generation, 26-year-old Selena Gomez might be young—but she’s just getting started. Vocal about her views, open about her medical issues and standing firm as the number two most followed account on Instagram, there is seemingly nothing Gomez can’t do.To date, she’s sold more than seven million albums and 22 million singles worldwide, her fans follow her not only because of her voice, but for what she says when she isn’t singing. A major UNICEF supporter and activist for human rights and diversity across the planet, she’s doing more with her fame than just raking in the cash. And it’s quite the pile she has, considering her net worth is an astounding $60 million. With an ALMA, American Music, MTV Video Music, People’s Choice, two Billboard Women in Music and 18 Teen Choice Awards—watching Gomez grow in the years to come will surely surprise (and inspire) us all. Here, a few of the mantras she abides by and her daily habits for success, prosperity and happiness.She focuses on quality, not quantity. Millennials might be given a bad rep for certain attitudes and mentalities, but one way they’re winning across all generations is in their approach to investing in memories—not items. Gomez is supportive of this trend, explaining she’s far from a materialistic person, and prioritizes quality over quantity.This doesn’t just extend to actual goods—but people within her life and her approach to music-making. “I think everything in my life is being majorly downsized, in a very good way,” she says. “I’m going back to simplicity. That’s always who I’ve been. It’s not me saying, ‘I feel the best I’ve ever felt It’s me saying, ‘I’m exactly where I am. And I’m so happy I’m in this place.’ It’s a lot of self-discovery. From 20 to 26? Oh my gosh. I feel like a totally different person,” she told Elle.For Gomez, it’s about being focused and aligned, allowing life to lead her instead of dictating every move. “My next album has been forever in the making. When people ask me why, I’m honest about it: It’s because I haven’t been ready. I mean, point-blank, I don’t feel confident enough in where my music is yet. If that takes 10 years, then it takes 10 years. I don’t care. Right now I just want to be super intentional with all of the things I’m doing,” she shared with Harper’s Bazaar.She takes a break when it’s necessary. Though becoming a major force within the entertainment industry isn’t for the weary, sometimes pausing from the hustle can be impactful. Instead of burning herself out, Gomez recognizes the importance of breaks, allowing her to reconnect to herself, her body and her priorities. While it might not seem like a big deal, part of this is disconnecting from social media. And when you have millions of followers, any break in content can be problematic if you want to maintain a stream. That’s okay for Gomez, who recognizes the value of digital downtown. “I have a complex relationship with Instagram, to say the least. It has given me a voice amid all the noise of people trying to narrate my life for me and allows me to say, ‘Hey, I’m gonna post this, and this is gonna take care of the 1,200 stories that people think are interesting but actually aren’t, and aren’t even true.’ So it empowers me in that way because it’s my words and my voice and my truth,” she shared with Harper’s Bazaar. “The only thing that worries me is how much value people our age place on social media. It’s an incredible platform, but in a lot of ways it’s given young people, myself included, a false representation of what’s important. So, yeah, it’s a complex relationship. Probably one of my most difficult relationships.” She goes to therapy.To become a fully-sprouted, totally-ready, self-aware adult, sometimes you have to talk all of it out. And the healthiest way to vent, process and transform? If you ask most professionals, this level of maturity and happiness is only sourced through therapy. Gomez is an outspoken proponent of this method of healing, telling Instyle how she uses therapy to get through stages of life. “Everything I cared about, I stopped caring about. I came out, and it felt like, ‘OK, I can only go forward.’ And there are still days. I go to therapy. I believe in that and talking about where you are. But I’m in a really, really healthy place,” she continued. “I was in the countryside and never did my hair; I took part in equine therapy, which is so beautiful. And it was hard, obviously. But I knew what my heart was saying, and I thought, ‘OK, I think this has helped me become stronger for other people.'”The ability for Gomez to not only recognize her mental struggles but to address them illustrates great emotional and mental stamina, especially for someone of a young age. She never lets it stand her way—and encourages others to follow her lead. “Depression and anxiety was my life for 5 years straight. Depression and anxiety was at the forefront of everything I did in my life. I would still do it—I would make myself have the courage to keep going and that slowly but surely kind of happened,” she shared with Instagram live. She starts each day with positivity.If the first thought you have when the alarm clock blares is demeaning or unkind, you’re setting the tone for a negative mindset all day long. Gomez realizes the importance of the morning, and shared on Instagram live how she starts every single morning with a book called Jesus Calling. “...I read 1 page from that. I have these dry erase markers and I write things all over my mirror in my bathroom that I need to remind myself of like maybe it’s like ‘hey, don’t forget that you got through something and that was really amazing that you got through that.”Focusing on her strengths and admiring her ability to push through anything gives her a fighting spirit, and the courage to do, well, anything it seems.She’s says ‘no’ to stress.It’s easy enough to be a ‘yes’ person, especially when to your core, you lean kinder and agreeable. Over time though, being able to welcome only the actual things you want in life instead of being a people-pleasure, is a better strategy. It’s one that Gomez has mastered—and has started practicing.“I’ve learned the power of saying no—I feel empowered when I say it. Just recently I was by myself with people from my record label, and I looked down the table and said, ‘I respect your opinions, but you’re going to let me make the end call. Just give me a few days to sleep on it.’ And I walked out and it felt like Anne Hathaway in The Devil Wears Prada, like, “Did I just … do that?”,” she told Instyle. “It felt good because I wasn’t being disrespectful. Just honest.”For more Daily Habits:5 Daily Habits to Steal from Mark Cuban5 Daily Habits to Steal from Will Smith5 Daily Habits to Steal from Meghan Markle
Selena Gomez is a sought-after American singer, actress and producer who started her career at a young age by starring in “Barney & Friends”, a children’s TV series.Her real breakthrough, however, was the leading role she played in “Wizards of Waverly Place”. After blooming into a charming young lady, Gomez started focusing on her music career as well. Thus, in 2009, she released her debut album named “Kiss and Tell”.Selena became popular also for playing an active role in advocating for the world’s most vulnerable children - she is known to be the youngest Goodwill Ambassador in the history of UNICEF.Sadly, in 2014 it was reported that Gomez had been battling lupus. Along with the physical symptoms, the aggravation of the disease caused depression, panic attacks, and eventually forced her to undergo a kidney transplant. It became a matter of life and death, considering the long waiting lists for finding a donor.Her friend, Francia Raisa, saved her life, as Selena was two weeks away from kidney failure. As a humble and selfless person, Francia gave the ultimate gift when she donated a kidney to her friend.Here are 19 empowering Selena Gomez quotes that will help boost your confidence.I feel like I'm just starting, but I think I'd be fine if it all went away.People are put into your life for seasons, for different reasons, and to teach you lessons.I've learned there's power deep down inside yourself, and you can find it when you don't give up on yourself and when you ask for help.If you are able to look yourself in the mirror every day with the decisions that you make, that's where power starts.I promise you that each and every one of you is made to be who you are and that's what's so attractive and beautiful.I don't think I took the time to notice how being a woman in my position is really a gift. I want to make sure I utilize all that power.I don't take anything in my personal life too seriously. I have great friends and a solid group of people I love. I feel like everything else will come organically.All the people who knock me down, only inspire me to do better.You are not defined by an Instagram photo, by a 'Like,' by a comment. That does not define you.If you know who you are, it takes all the power away from that negativity. I promise.You can't be afraid of what people are going to say, because you're never going to make everyone happy.I feel very empowered and confident and comfortable with where I am.I'm at a place in my life where I know what I deserve and what I don't deserve, so I just want to make sure I can be the best I can be.Never look back. If Cinderella had looked back and picked up the shoe she would have never found her prince.I don't want to become little or hurt or a victim. I want to be strong for girls…I just want them to know that there is an option of standing up for yourself.I just want to be happy. If that's me just being myself, then I don't really care.I never really said I want to be a role model. But then when it happened I was so down for it.You're figuring out who you are and there are so many different levels of emotions that you go through. The best is when you feel confident, beautiful, and comfortable with yourself.I live my life and nothing is going to dictate how I feel unless I let it.
Kicked off earlier this month, Taylor Swift’s "Reputation" Tour is delivering epic moments one after the other, from the fabulous costumes to high-energy choreography and heartfelt moments.While it’s usually Taylor delivering emotional speeches of gratitude to her loyal fans, her May 19th stop at Pasadena’s Rose Bowl saw the pop queen surprised by none other than BFF Selena Gomez.Delighting fans with a surprise duet, the two pop icons sang Taylor’s Hands to Myself, cheered on by 60,000 fans. After the performance, Gomez turned to the audience to speak of her love of Swift and the gratitude she feels for having such a remarkable friend.I have to say thank you to my best friend of 12 years, almost 13. The reason why she has been one of my best friends is because this person has never, ever judged a single decision I’ve made.She’s always met me where I’ve been, she’s encouraged me when I’ve had nothing to be encouraged about. I don’t know if I’d be as strong as I am if I didn’t have you or your family, because you’ve changed my life. Selena GomezVisibly stunned, Swift looked at her friend not knowing what was happening, smiling as an emotional Gomez thanked the audience for supporting Swift. Describing Swift as “one of the most beautiful, strong, independent women I’ve ever met,” Gomez ended her speech with an over-the-top bow, as Swift went in for a giant hug.After the two stars left the stage, they continued expressing their mutual love and gratitude on social media. Considering how often the media and society pits successful women against each other, speaking of backstage cattiness and ridiculous beefs, it’s refreshing to see an unscripted and pure expression of true female friendship.No competition, just absolute support and love. Following the challenges of the recent past, Gomez has made a point of expressing her appreciation for true friends – like when she broke down into tears in December when accepting her Billboard Woman of the Year award, thanking close friend Francia Raisa for saving her life.
Selena Gomez - Trust In Yourself Selena Gomez opens up about her journey towards self-acceptance, and how she learned that the only way to do great things in life is to be true to yourself. Transcript: "I lost sight of who I was. I listened to opinions of people and I tried to change who I am because I thought that others would accept me for it. I realized I don't know have to be anything but myself. I'm surrounded by people who are supposed to guide me. Some of them have and others haven't. They pressure me. There's so much pressure. You got to be sexy. You got to be cute. You got to be nice. You got to be all these things. I'm sure you can all relate. You all have pressure that you have to deal with every day. I'm sure with school, with work, with friends, with parents, with family, with parents. They tell me what to wear, how to look, what I should say, how I should be. Until recently, I had given into that pressure. I'm sure all of you haven't been told that you don't have what it takes and that you may not be good enough and you don't have enough people supporting you, and you're being told all of these things, when deep down it's all you want to do. You want to be a part of something great. You want to make something great. It does more than knock the wind out of you. It crushes you when people try to tell you that you're not good enough. It almost did for me. The most important thing is to always trust in myself. If I'm doing something because I love it, I should do it because I love it and I believe I can do it. I'd be lying if I said that I had never tried to make myself better by giving in, because I have. The most important thing is that we learn and we continue to learn from each other. Please stay true to yourself. Please just remain who you are and know that we have each other's back. All of us have each other's back."
Selena Gomez - Don't Stay Broken In an emotional acceptance speech at the American Music Awards, Selena Gomez describes how she dealt with depression and the importance of taking time off when you feel like she did. Transcript: "I had to stop because I had everything and I was absolutely broken inside. I kept it all together enough to where I would never let you down but I kept it too much together to where I let myself down. I don’t want to see your bodies on Instagram. I want to see what’s in here [holds chest]. I’m not trying to get validation nor do I need it anymore. All I can say from the bottom of my heart is I am so grateful that I have the opportunity to be able to share what I love every single day with people that I love. I have to say thank you so much to my fans because you guys are so damn loyal and I don’t know what I did to deserve you. If you are broken you do not have to stay broken. If that’s anything whether you respect me or not that’s one thing you should know about me. I care about people. Thank you so much for this. This is for you." - Selena Gomez
