There are a ton of pressures that come with parenting. These days, parents — and moms in particular — often feel as though they need to do it all. And they often feel like they need to do it all in the most Instagram-able way. That’s why so many people are relating to one mother’s back-to-school sign, which embraces being perfectly imperfect.
Many parents make back-to-school signs for their kids. These signs often include stats like how old the kid is, what grade they’re entering, and a few of their interests or maybe what they want to be when they grow up. Each year Facebook and Instagram brim with such photos during the first week of back to school.
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This year, however, one mom decided to flip the switch. Jeni Bukolt of Waxhaw, North Carolina, made a “Mom’s first day of school” sign for herself. “I am 42 years tired,” it reads. Then, under the date, she added, “I’ll probably miss a school ‘theme’ day” and “I really like sleep.” The best part? Under that, she put, “Please don’t ask me to volunteer. But I will buy you supplies.”
Bukolt then snapped a photo of herself holding that sign while sporting oversized sunglasses and a tired look.
“Happy Back-to-School season to all the parents,” she wrote in her Instagram caption. “May we not forget a ‘theme’ day or accidentally send our kids to the bus stop on the teacher work days, or forget to pick them up on the randomly scheduled half days. May we have patience and give each other grace for doing our best!”
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Many parents immediately related to Bukolt’s post because it shares the message that it’s okay not to be perfect. In a world where so many of the things we see on social media drive home the message of perfection, seeing the opposite of that is quite refreshing. So naturally, the image went viral.
“I make signs for my kids each year, but lately I've thought about how I always feel behind, as though I'm failing (in some way),” Bukolt told TODAY Parents. “My kids will come home and say, 'It was Dr. Seuss Day,' and that sinking feeling hits,” she continued. “Or, I've accidentally sent my kid to the bus stop on a teacher (training) day."
This year, however, Bukolt wanted to embrace the hectic nature of back-to-school while helping other moms who are in the same boat.
“Parents put so much pressure on themselves to live up to a certain standard on social media,” she explained to the publication. “No one has a perfect life, and we don't have to judge each other.”
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While some trolls took Bukolt to task online, she revealed that overall she heard from many moms who saw her sign and were grateful for it. She recalled moms who said they were stressed out, but the sign made them laugh, or the moms who said it made their day. After all, doesn’t everyone want to feel seen?
For those wondering, Bukolt’s kids are now 8 and 12. In addition to being a mother, she owns a communications and marketing company, Haven Creative Agency. So she definitely understands and lives those same pressures many parents face to do it all.
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“We're all feeling that way,” Bukolt added. “So why not lighten the mood a bit?”
We're All Doing Our Best
As parents, it’s easy to compare ourselves to others — especially when so many of us use our downtime to feed our social media addictions and scroll to see how other moms and dads do it. But it’s important to remember that social media isn’t a mirror; it’s a smoke show. The messages are controlled, and no parent is perfect.
While not all of us have to open up on social media the way Bukolt did, talking about those imperfections and realities with friends and fellow parents is essential. And, as this story reminds us, it’s okay to feel like you’re sometimes drowning or as though there’s nothing left in your tank.
They say it takes a village, so rely on your support system for help. Take breaks when you need them. Throw some cake and pizza on the table at your kid’s next birthday party, and don’t feel the need to make it Pinterest-worthy. We all get tired sometimes, but putting your energy towards showing up and being there for your kids when it counts is what matters. Whether you capture it on social media or not.
Military Dad Defends His 4 Little Daughters When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Military Dad of 4 Daughters Defends His Girls When Strangers Make This Rude Remark
Austin von Letkemann is the military officer strangers feel "sorry" for — and the reason is infuriating.
Whenever the devoted father leaves the house with his four children, strangers can't help but notice the officer in uniform is holding hands with 4 adorable little girls. They will tell the traditionally "masculine" and "all American" dad they feel sorry for him, because he has no sons. This dad makes one thing very clear: They are his daughters, they aren't a burden.
In a passionate video, von Letkemann took to Instagram to share with his followers that the only thing that's "difficult" about being a girl dad — is clapping back to these sexist remarks over and over again.
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When strangers approach Austin von Letkemann and his four daughters, they don't always realize that their comments are being overheard. They seem oblivious to the fact that his girls understand every word. Von Letkemann describes how people will approach him and, without thinking, make remarks like "I'm sorry" or even joke about his lack of sons. What they don't realize is that these comments, intended to be light-hearted or humorous, can be deeply hurtful to his daughters. These strangers are not just disrespecting von Letkemann's choices as a father; they're also sending a message to his daughters that their presence is something to be pitied. It’s a message that von Letkemann won't stand for, and he's speaking out to defend his girls from these insensitive remarksSaying "Get Your Shotgun" Isn't Funny — It's Sexist
Another common comment that Austin von Letkemann encounters is the old "better get your shotgun ready" trope, often delivered with a smirk or a wink. This line is typically intended to suggest that a father with daughters should be on high alert to protect them from potential "suitors," implying that they are objects to be guarded rather than individuals with agency.
Von Letkemann finds this line of thinking outdated and sexist. In his viral Instagram video, he points out that these jokes are not just stale — they're damaging.
By suggesting that his daughters require armed protection, the joke reinforces the idea that women are inherently vulnerable and need to be shielded from men. Von Letkemann argues that instead of promoting this narrative, society should focus on teaching respect and consent, challenging these sexist tropes at their source.
Watch Austin von Letkemann's Video:
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Despite the constant remarks about his lack of sons, Austin von Letkemann is clear: He wouldn't trade his daughters for anything.
In fact, he told his Instagram followers that if he were to have a fifth child, he would hope for another girl. This declaration isn't just about doubling down on his pride in his family — it's a pointed response to those who see fathering daughters as a misfortune.
Von Letkemann's stance is a powerful one, rejecting the notion that a family is incomplete without sons. He encourages others to question the assumptions behind these comments and to appreciate the joy and fulfillment that his daughters bring. By sharing his story, von Letkemann hopes to create a more inclusive perspective on fatherhood, one that values daughters just as much as sons.